I’m at Peace

I said I couldn’t do this anymore,

But everyone seemed to have a better opinion of my life, of the capacity of my strength,

But they have no idea of the courage I’ve had to put up through these smiles.

I begged that he would stop hitting me,

But everyone seemed to be so sure I must be doing something to provoke him,

But they have no idea what the pain and aches feel like at the end of the day. … More I’m at Peace

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Rebuilding your life after abuse

If you have been abused, it is very likely that you will feel the effects of that abuse in all your future relationships.  It could be with your spouse, your friends, your family, and your children. Imagine what it would be like if you could be free from the memories of that abuse – if you could see the world the same as someone who had a normal childhood. Perhaps, there’s still at a chance at a normal life.

Many women who have lived with an abuser find the new “freedom” inhibiting. Such a restrictive view comes from feelings of being lost, out of control, and confused. … More Rebuilding your life after abuse

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How can a man love another man’s victim?

In front of her mirror, she takes off her huge sun-glasses which she’s used to cover the purple bruise under her right eye. She sighed. She reaches for her cleansing wipes and braces herself as she cleans off the concealer cosmetic she’d used to cover up the red bruise on her arm and legs. She gets into the shower and before she could feel sorry for herself, she’s back in the kitchen making food for her husband who delights in snapping and hitting her at will. He was just generally unappreciative of her. His aim was to bring her permanently under his submission regardless of the fact that he married her a socialite.

She will not leave him because everyone thinks they look good together. She will not leave him because she wants to be understanding and make excuses for him. She will not leave him because he takes care of his responsibilities toward her. For her, it would be futile to leave. Otherwise – “Leave to where?” … More How can a man love another man’s victim?

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About yesterday

I stand against domestic violence, especially towards helpless women. No matter the situation, no matter how aggravated the situation, no matter the ego, no matter the temptation, abusing your wife doesn’t make a man any better than he is. In truth, when you look back at the situation, it just makes you full of regret and shame, almost like you didn’t recognize the monster you became. It’s better to remove yourself from all appearances of domestic violence than fall prey and this goes for both men and women and in this case, women are more like to fall victim.

Stay safe! … More About yesterday

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Citing irreconcilable differences

Some people claim that irreconcilable differences is a no-fault grounds for divorce, which means neither party committed any sort of extenuating act, such as adultery, abandonment or extreme cruelty. In other words, no-fault divorce is just like it sounds – no single party is at fault for the break of the marriage. Even Wikipedia states that ‘in the United States, this is one of several possible grounds’. Once again I wonder, when did this become a confident excuse for divorce in Nigeria? … More Citing irreconcilable differences

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