Taking a chance in life is one of the most difficult things a person can do. Humans are genetically wired to crave and pursue comfort in every aspect of life. Any deviation from this course and we become paranoid and somewhat out of balance. Life, and the work it demands to meet all of our basic needs, is all about balance. Our pursuit of happiness and self-actualization is no different. The good news is that balance looks different to everyone and no one person is right in what appears to appeal to them. However, a person’s definition of balance is a mix of their innate wants and basic needs and their personal opinions about how those things relate to the world around them, otherwise, there is a displacement which puts a person lopsided. … More The thought of “second marriage”
If you’ve ever visited a blog on a website and noticed it hasn’t been updated for a year, or more you’ll know it looks bad. A dead blog is worse than no blog at all which is my number fear in blogging. If you are going to blog on your own site or even one of the free blogging platforms it’s crucial that you have a regular posting schedule. That way, your readers know your pattern of posting and can always come back at certain times (calculated as your peak view times) and be sure to find something interesting to read. However, this possess as another challenge – consistency. … More Limitations of Blogging
The problem with expectations is that they’re just like an opinion. Everyone has one and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. This is the main cause of conflicts and issues in a relationship.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does right, conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to show love, for instance, will probably differ but does that make one of the ways wrong? Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. … More Managing Love’s Expectations
The ‘Should I stay or should I go?’ ‘Should I love or should I leave?’ questions become too hard to answer. In the process, they end up holding on for far longer than they should. But braving something that is consistently hurting us and destroying our potential to be happy is not only unhealthy but self-destructive.
So how do you know if you’re holding on to a relationship that is toxic? How do you take that final call? How do you know when it’s time to let go? … More ‘Should I love or should I leave?’
When women hang out together and get down to gisting about stuffs, often times, when they’re not talking about fashion, they’re busy talking about guys! They’re either talking about how their man gives them so much loving or how much heartache he’s causing them. When they go on and on about men, you’ll begin to wonder if there aren’t at least a few good men left. But gisting about each other’s partner is not the exclusive reserve of women alone. Men, too, talk about women when they hang out. And we also complain about some of the negatives of our women. Few days ago, myself and some of my colleagues were at the eatery opposite the office having lunch when our discussion veered to women and how increasingly difficult it’s become these days to maintain a woman in this recession period. … More Who wants an ungrateful wife?
Now success is a very relative term. A writer who dreams of being successful may be of the opinion that until his/her book makes waves in the market and is able to sell out within a few weeks of publication, he/she hasn’t succeeded. Or perhaps another writer whose idea of success is to make life-changing impacts with the little readers his/her book can reach. Success is only measurable against the standard which we have set for ourselves. If what I want is to be a stay at home mom, then success will only find me on that level. But if what I want is to be the among Forbes’ top 100 most influential women in the world, then I have by myself raised the bar for which I will have to run with till the day I attend my dream. So it is safe to say while success may have started off as a journey, it comes to an end at a destination, except of course our success story is operations of some sort. … More What gives fulfillment?
I read in an article recently that women exaggerate a lot about matters and make a mountain out of a molehill. It’s kind of interesting really.
I know women can be dramatic and vulnerable, needing attention and commanding recognition so when they want something or expect something in a certain way and they don’t get it, they tend to interpret it however it suits them in most cases. Even my 4year old does this attention seeking drama all the time. She just wants to be heard and adored and loved.
So if it’s in the nature of women to exaggerate, it not only means that they can exaggerate the bad situations but women exaggerate even littlest of good times as well. They want to either paint the best scenario of a situation or play the pity party to get attention. … More How much of truth is in exaggeration really?
Someone once told me to trust in God is good. To believe in Him and have faith that He will sort you out is good. Then I asked, what if after believing I also make plans for just in case. He said, that is applying wisdom which is acceptable. But resting on completely on God by the renewing of your mind is an example of a perfect will of God. Then I began to ponder. I always thought a good acceptable and perfect will of God is one narrative.
Looking at Romans 12:2, I must have read it time and again but I never paid extra attention to the last part of the verse. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” … More Good, Acceptable and Perfect Will
A face, a place not bound by space or time
In my solitude, I hear the many voices
In my quietness, I hear it loud
Yet not at all in the midst of the ones I love
A value for time is my vocation
The power to fill a need is my passion
I am content in your content
Yet in my solitude, I hear the many voices
Challenging me of the many yet I am yet to be
So my search continues
Of a fulfillment
Of a face
A place, not bound by space or time
Until then, my search continues
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