As Jesus Christ makes his triumphant entry into Jerusalem today, I bring my prayer request for the little girls.
I pray for the little girl child that she would hear and understand how God values and loves her. I pray that she would be accepted and treasured within her culture as someone who has been created in God’s image. I ask for her protection and loving care; that cultures will be transformed in view of the girl child through the knowledge of God’s word. Give her a sense of belonging, O Lord, that she would feel safe and accepted within the family and community. … More For the Girl Child, Dear Jesus …
What makes a father think it’s okay for a 5 year old son to have a glass of red wine but not acceptable for his grown wife to have a sip of it? What makes a man think it’s okay for him to live a full life and relegate a woman to the kitchen or be a partial participant in the “other room”? What makes a man think at all that it’s a man’s world? It’s all part of gender inequality treatment.
Psychology tells us that there are no differences between male and female intelligence. However, while men are significantly more likely to take risks than women, this trait enables them to get ahead more quickly than the average woman. Perhaps we owe the intuition in the male gender to segregate from the opposite sex to their more likelihood to be aggressive, a trait influenced by androgen exposure. … More Gender Inequality
Growing up, there was a Northern family who lived in my father’s backyard. It was a family of 2 girls, both in their teens. The elder was 16 years old when she was given away in marriage. When I asked questions, I gathered she had been betrothed from a much early age but her betroth chose to keep her in her parents’ house for grooming. I couldn’t understand this. So I wondered what age exactly she must have been betrothed and if she would have been aware of what happened at the ceremony or the giveaway agreement, as I choose to call it, or if she would even understand what it meant to be married. … More Early/Child marriage
Have you ever wondered why the female gender gets so complicated sometimes? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps it’s not a deliberate act to be complex? There’s been a lot of memes around about how you just can’t ever understand the female gender or what they want or how to make them happy. Well, while this might be true sometimes, it can’t be true all the time. This erratic behavior or moods in the female gender isn’t a deliberate act for attention, at least not all the time. It’s all embedded in the hormones, the changing pattern of a girl or woman is due to the many changes they go through at different stages of their lives till death. How does this affect a girl child you may wonder or how is this an issue at all? Think again. … More Teaching body awareness in girls
Have you ever wondered what the intent behind the question, “Is it a boy or a girl?” is? What difference really is that question fashioned to achieve? The joy of a new born shouldn’t be diminished by the gender of the child. But we find, more often the neglect and rejection of a girl-child normally starts from birth when the news of safe delivery is broken to the family and especially to the father. As soon as the gender status of a child is announced by the medical attendant after the delivery as a girl, some parents receive such supposedly good news with disappointment and dismay. While it is taught over and again that the sex of a girl is determined by the dominance of the male chromosomes, most men still castigate their wives for bearing a girl child. … More Rejection and neglect
The girl child problem starts from the home like every issue that was neglected or not properly addressed. And this continues as she interacts with the general society if not helped. There are ordinarily more concerns in having a girl child. There are a lot of things you should be careful about and even fearful for. I’m not trying to scare anyone but it’s about the flimsiness of the anatomy of the girl that makes everything about her different, special. It wasn’t until about early 20s that the girl child was accepted largely in the Nigerian society. Before then and still in some parts of Nigeria, especially in the North and East, parents feel more blessed and fulfilled to have a son. A girl child is born and socialized into the belief of being inferior or sub human with attendant marginalization and abuse. She is often held responsible and punished for any misfortune of her parents. At the backdrop of situations like, not only is the psychology of that child been tampered with but it gets worse by her interactions and expectations from the world around her. … More Family abuse and domestic violence
With a heavy heart, I write this every time. The other day, it was the issue of domestic violence that caught my attention on social media, today it is the issue of child rape. A daughter is the most precious, most delicate gift God ever gave the world. I don’t understand why evil minded perverted men will want to defy God’s precious gifts. Yesterday, it was the issue of a man in Adamawa state in Nigeria raping a 4 year old girl to death. The day before it was the issue of a so-called pastor defiling a 7 year old girl on the altar of a church in Oyo state? The day before that it was a man in Kano state raping and even, unbelievably, impregnating a 5 year old girl. However possible it is for a 5 year old to even get pregnant, I need a doctor to explain this to me because this has gone way beyond scary. What?! Seriously, what is wrong with the society now or should I just ask what the world is coming to.
I’m sure there are females your age who are willing to give you satisfaction in exchange for whatever. Why not approach those instead? Anything at all but not raping a small innocent child. Please, for God’s sake STOP IT! Forget the stigma even, the trauma, the health implications for that child, the psychological effect and a host of others is more than enough to truncate the progressive development of that child. They might never even survive it. Then the parents have to face the stigma.
Mothers, I know it is unending the teachings of having to take extra care of your girl child but please, help them to be watchful, to be mindful at all times. I know it’s not easy, especially for the child who just wants to play and let loose, but unknowingly there’s a perverted man around the corner looking at her in an ungodly way. So how do you tell them to play like this or sit like that or be conscious like this? Too much to take in but that’s what the world has come to now. We need to teach them these things and help them be reminded of them always. Early sex education has automatically now become a necessity. Of course, there are levels to exposure and awareness per age group but you can seek a counselor’s help in knowing the right amount of sex education for your child’s age.
I am raising an awareness, calling on mothers, fathers, teachers, civil adults, responsible adults and the government to help us preserve our daughters. Save the daughters so we can benefit of a better tomorrow. … More Save the daughters