“If the fish and the bird falls in love, where would they live?” he asks her. “I’ve heard this is the irony of true love, pathetic. But with true love, we will change the course of our destiny and be happy for as long as we both shall live”. … More The fish who loved a bird
“Come with me my love and our fates we will cheat. Come to this enchanted place where the sea and sky meet.”
Ariyike turns around with a smile. It has been almost a month since she’s hoped to run into him again. Since the last time she didn’t meet him where she left him. She thinks she recognizes that voice. And she is right. It is him; her ‘unconcealed desire’.
“She smiles”, he declares, holding his hand over his chest in that way that reveals how relieved he is that she welcomes him this time. … More The fish who loved a bird
As she drives further away from the stranger, nothing else comes to mind but the face of the one whom she left behind. The only one who has touched a part of her that she’s struggled to ignore. It will be the first time, since Uni, that someone would utter such blatant words of desire to her. And although she doesn’t even know anything about him, she had been quick to jump to the conclusion that he is not her type. Then she scuffs.
“What’s my type anyway if I’ve never had options?” she asks herself.
Then suddenly she turns, though she couldn’t say why. Back to the spot where she left him. … More The fish who loved a bird
“Watch where you’re going”, she yells after the car but even she can hardly hear her own voice over the loud thunders and rainfall.
She hurries into her car and shuts the door. She watches the car drive away in her rear mirror while she wipes away the water from her face with her hand. Then she looks at herself in the mirror.
“Urgh!” she moans. “My hair. My polish”. So instead of going home, she waits patiently in her car so that the rain will stop and she can go back to the salon to retouch her look. But the rains poured even more. She doesn’t know when she falls asleep. … More The fish who loved a bird
Someone once asked me, ‘why penguin?’
And I asked, ‘why not?’
‘But I really want to know’
So I said, ‘Google it’.
He comes back days later and says,
‘Now I understand the mystery that is you a little better’.
‘Tell me’, I said.
‘It’s a metaphor, that’s why you don’t usually perform the way people expect you to. You’re spontaneous and owing no explanations. And even though you want to believe that you’re conventional, there’s nothing conforming about you. And those sharp contrast colors of the penguin signify this unconventional nature. On one hand, you can be tough. On the other, you can be loving’.
‘Hmm’, I looked uninterested.
I didn’t research all of those to know I liked the unique love of the penguins. Their loyalty through a lifetime endeared me. I didn’t need his lecture too.
‘And if you haven’t loved, let me prove to you that I’m worth your loyalty’, he said.
‘But I’m already happily spoken for’.
‘Touché’. … More Penguin
It’s so easy to take a look in the mirror and say to yourself, ‘the one who will marry me will be very lucky’. I’ve done it before. Well, I still think that the one who married me is lucky indeed but really, at first glance, I am very unassuming. I can cook, sew, mend, and care for babies. I’m patient, I’m kind and all those things a lot of people thought I was not when I was in Uni especially and afterward. They were probably seeing the surface side to me – the enigmatic beauty, and nothing more.
Men love that unattainable side to a woman. Well, that’s until they attain the woman and they look forward to the next unattainable “thing”. But what makes a man stay with a woman, perhaps, after that first mystery is unveiled? Beyond the beauty, carriage and packaging, should be a wife-material if you’re actually looking to be married sometime in the future. … More While you’re waiting for that Mr. Right,
The ‘Should I stay or should I go?’ ‘Should I love or should I leave?’ questions become too hard to answer. In the process, they end up holding on for far longer than they should. But braving something that is consistently hurting us and destroying our potential to be happy is not only unhealthy but self-destructive.
So how do you know if you’re holding on to a relationship that is toxic? How do you take that final call? How do you know when it’s time to let go? … More ‘Should I love or should I leave?’
I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.
But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.
Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time. … More Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable
If you have been abused, it is very likely that you will feel the effects of that abuse in all your future relationships. It could be with your spouse, your friends, your family, and your children. Imagine what it would be like if you could be free from the memories of that abuse – if you could see the world the same as someone who had a normal childhood. Perhaps, there’s still at a chance at a normal life.
Many women who have lived with an abuser find the new “freedom” inhibiting. Such a restrictive view comes from feelings of being lost, out of control, and confused. … More Rebuilding your life after abuse
In front of her mirror, she takes off her huge sun-glasses which she’s used to cover the purple bruise under her right eye. She sighed. She reaches for her cleansing wipes and braces herself as she cleans off the concealer cosmetic she’d used to cover up the red bruise on her arm and legs. She gets into the shower and before she could feel sorry for herself, she’s back in the kitchen making food for her husband who delights in snapping and hitting her at will. He was just generally unappreciative of her. His aim was to bring her permanently under his submission regardless of the fact that he married her a socialite.
She will not leave him because everyone thinks they look good together. She will not leave him because she wants to be understanding and make excuses for him. She will not leave him because he takes care of his responsibilities toward her. For her, it would be futile to leave. Otherwise – “Leave to where?” … More How can a man love another man’s victim?