Raising children would probably be the most tasking responsibility parents have. It’s easy to give instructions to guide them and maybe even spank them when they fail to follow your instructions. Being the example the children need isn’t always as easy as, “You are only allowed 30 minutes on your phone daily”, or “You are allowed on 1 hour with TV on school days”, or “You should be in bed by 8:30 pm on school days”. … More Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom
Some say you can’t call it single parenting when you have a partner because that would mean you at least have some sort of support to raise and handle the children emotionally and financially. But in the case where you’re practically the only emotional and financial support your children have, it’s safe to say you’re in the single parenting category. At its most stark, being a single parent is doing EVERYTHING – being the breadwinner, doing all of the parenting and most importantly, having no back up when either one goes south. Being a single parent is generally not staying at home with your children while someone else works to put a roof over your heads. It’s leaving your children with someone else, paying for the privilege and going out to work to put a roof over everyone’s heads. Then it’s arriving home after working a full day and being hit with all the parenting stuff on top of the full day’s paid work. … More Single parenting with your partner?
Speaking of responsibilities – I was driving through a community recently and saw these group of public school pupils outside the school premise, cutting the overgrown grasses with cutlasses and hoes. At first, I thought – wow, who let’s their child leave home and come be a gardener at school? Can’t the school afford aboki to do the job? Is it safe for them to be outside when they should be catching up on the new term’s curriculum? Is it safe, basically? … More Raising Children: Differentiating between child labour, abuse and what’s normal/healthy.
Children are such a delight really until you begin to get comfortable with having one too many. Either with one or five, the anxiety of parenting children are the same. The concern of raising them adequately, eliminating the agitation of how they’ll turn out in future. It’s one thing to train a child in the way he/she should go, it’s another thing for them to actually lead their lives on the objectives parents have instilled in them. … More Scares of Parenting
After they were done and gone, I wanted to be dead. I couldn’t believe still that it happened to me, to us. But the evidences were real, painfully so. When I thought I was disappointed back then in secondary school, the pain and hurt and fury I felt at that moment toward life and God were insurmountable. Then I thought of Mother. She would be devastated, broken. It would confirm her reservations about being secluded from other students. I feared for my brother and I. The extent of the damage would now only be determined by doctors if only we would make it through that night alive. The sight of him frightened me as I imagined the worst lying with my swollen eyes glued to the white ceiling. The tears rolled down without a sound or whimper. … More Part 1 : THE TRAGEDY
Training children goes beyond setting rules and standards, it’s also leading by example. Parents’ lifestyle heavily influences the children. It’s one thing to teach and say, it’s a totally different thing to do. More than the Bible they will read, parents are first and foremost the book that every child reads. So first is the challenge of parenting/leading by example. … More Challenges of parenting grade-schoolers in the 21st century
It’s more convenient to pass buck when it comes to taking responsibility but consequences always remain unto whom it will affect. There is a lot of craze about teaching our daughters basically to be the perfect wives. Our African mothers put a lot of pressure on daughters only because they feel girls need a stamp of approval to be accepted in the society. The empowerment for the girl child is another topic on its own but for now, it has become imperative to draw our consciousness to the boy child. What are we teaching our sons? … More What are we teaching our sons?
Marriage is for better and worse. At least, that’s what we all say when we read our vows. It doesn’t automatically mean that there will be good days or bad days. It just means whatever comes your way, you will stay and weather the storm. Well, there’s a lot of storm raging against marriages now … More Doing it for the children?
I have wanted to write on this subject since Tuesday but it’s not as pleasant to write about as it is to get the campaign against this out there.
A friend of mine sent me a video sometime in 2013. I love her but I couldn’t restrict myself from letting her know never to send me such videos ever again. She said she only meant to keep me informed and aware of the possible evils in the society. Don’t get me wrong, I never assumed we live in a sane world where everyone is considerate and human. But you see, I have a daughter and it became a nightmare to have watched that video, despising the effect of the content of that video on a little baby girl. I couldn’t sleep with my eyes closed for nights, watching over my daughter like an overprotective mother-hen, suspecting every move towards my daughter. God forbid I have to suspect my husband or her older brother. It was that worrisome. But I guess I was able to come out of that hole.
Such evil, no doubt has always been in the society. Mind you, there’s nothing new under the sun. But I suppose the effrontery and viral spread of this vile act has become even more rampant these days. Child abuse is nothing compare to this newness of low in our society. Men no longer find pleasure in the opposite site. Heck, not even with same sex. Now, they turn to children? Innocent little ones whom the Lord gifts us from the directly from His Throne of mercy.
I have a father, a husband and a son whom I love and adore so I won’t generalize men. There are others too who are sane and full of the fear of God.
This is a call to STOP CHILD RAPE. Please, give these babies a chance to grow and live normal, even extraordinary lives so they can be free to do exploits like the Bible say they are for.
I have said my piece.
… More CHILD RAPE: STOP IT!
Originally posted on Cogito Ergo Mum:
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