Speaking of responsibilities – I was driving through a community recently and saw these group of public school pupils outside the school premise, cutting the overgrown grasses with cutlasses and hoes. At first, I thought – wow, who let’s their child leave home and come be a gardener at school? Can’t the school afford aboki to do the job? Is it safe for them to be outside when they should be catching up on the new term’s curriculum? Is it safe, basically? … More Raising Children: Differentiating between child labour, abuse and what’s normal/healthy.
As Jesus Christ makes his triumphant entry into Jerusalem today, I bring my prayer request for the little girls.
I pray for the little girl child that she would hear and understand how God values and loves her. I pray that she would be accepted and treasured within her culture as someone who has been created in God’s image. I ask for her protection and loving care; that cultures will be transformed in view of the girl child through the knowledge of God’s word. Give her a sense of belonging, O Lord, that she would feel safe and accepted within the family and community. … More For the Girl Child, Dear Jesus …
She doesn’t run with the crowd
She goes her own way
She doesn’t play after dark
She lights up the day
Got her own kind of style
That sets her apart
And this world doesn’t know what she has within
There’s something rare about her
A rose that can grow anywhere
And there’s no one else that can compare
It’s what makes her different, it makes her beautiful
It’s inside her, blossoming through
It makes her different, it makes her beautiful. … More A rose that can grow anywhere
What makes a father think it’s okay for a 5 year old son to have a glass of red wine but not acceptable for his grown wife to have a sip of it? What makes a man think it’s okay for him to live a full life and relegate a woman to the kitchen or be a partial participant in the “other room”? What makes a man think at all that it’s a man’s world? It’s all part of gender inequality treatment.
Psychology tells us that there are no differences between male and female intelligence. However, while men are significantly more likely to take risks than women, this trait enables them to get ahead more quickly than the average woman. Perhaps we owe the intuition in the male gender to segregate from the opposite sex to their more likelihood to be aggressive, a trait influenced by androgen exposure. … More Gender Inequality
“My mother trusted too much. She trusted a pastor with alone with me when I was just 7 and the pastor molested me. I wanted to tell my mother but I hoped she would notice on her own that sometime was different about me but she couldn’t tell. When I told eventually told her, she only got angry that I could even think of such a lie and she shut me up without ever verifying my story”, she said to me. … More Child Prostitution & Internet Child Pornography
Growing up, there was a Northern family who lived in my father’s backyard. It was a family of 2 girls, both in their teens. The elder was 16 years old when she was given away in marriage. When I asked questions, I gathered she had been betrothed from a much early age but her betroth chose to keep her in her parents’ house for grooming. I couldn’t understand this. So I wondered what age exactly she must have been betrothed and if she would have been aware of what happened at the ceremony or the giveaway agreement, as I choose to call it, or if she would even understand what it meant to be married. … More Early/Child marriage
Have you ever wondered why the female gender gets so complicated sometimes? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps it’s not a deliberate act to be complex? There’s been a lot of memes around about how you just can’t ever understand the female gender or what they want or how to make them happy. Well, while this might be true sometimes, it can’t be true all the time. This erratic behavior or moods in the female gender isn’t a deliberate act for attention, at least not all the time. It’s all embedded in the hormones, the changing pattern of a girl or woman is due to the many changes they go through at different stages of their lives till death. How does this affect a girl child you may wonder or how is this an issue at all? Think again. … More Teaching body awareness in girls
The girl child problem starts from the home like every issue that was neglected or not properly addressed. And this continues as she interacts with the general society if not helped. There are ordinarily more concerns in having a girl child. There are a lot of things you should be careful about and even fearful for. I’m not trying to scare anyone but it’s about the flimsiness of the anatomy of the girl that makes everything about her different, special. It wasn’t until about early 20s that the girl child was accepted largely in the Nigerian society. Before then and still in some parts of Nigeria, especially in the North and East, parents feel more blessed and fulfilled to have a son. A girl child is born and socialized into the belief of being inferior or sub human with attendant marginalization and abuse. She is often held responsible and punished for any misfortune of her parents. At the backdrop of situations like, not only is the psychology of that child been tampered with but it gets worse by her interactions and expectations from the world around her. … More Family abuse and domestic violence
What comes to mind when I see an adult molesting a child is, ‘seriously, go pick up someone your own size’. What makes an adult want to pick on a helpless minor, I will never understand. My thought is if you think you have all the energy and time to harass someone, then match all … More The Many Disturbing Faces of Child Abuse
They say when a child is born, a mother is automatically born; a father is born. I want to believe that just as the child learns through milestone development, the parents learn, too, by different unfolding to manage situations to the best of their capabilities and knowledge. After all, there are no cut rules to … More Raising happy and healthy children