Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom

Raising children would probably be the most tasking responsibility parents have. It’s easy to give instructions to guide them and maybe even spank them when they fail to follow your instructions. Being the example the children need isn’t always as easy as, “You are only allowed 30 minutes on your phone daily”, or “You are allowed on 1 hour with TV on school days”, or “You should be in bed by 8:30 pm on school days”. … More Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom

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Where do I go from here?

Cross roads, decisions, choices – sometimes these are not options for us. Life may be full of choices but at the same time, when life choose to happen, that’s exactly what it does – it just happens and without consent from us. Resilience is the key to survival and our reactions say a lot about who we are. … More Where do I go from here?

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Celebration with Reservations

I saw a picture message on Instagram on Sunday asking people to drop comments to describe their fathers. I was shocked at the alarming number of insulting comments and curses by people to their Dads. Like seriously? “He-goat”, “Bastard”, “What does that even mean?”, “There’s no such word in my dictionary”. And I wondered, how does a father, who is supposed to be the epitome of honor and pride in the family become such object of ridicule and hate? … More Celebration with Reservations

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Scares of Parenting

Children are such a delight really until you begin to get comfortable with having one too many. Either with one or five, the anxiety of parenting children are the same. The concern of raising them adequately, eliminating the agitation of how they’ll turn out in future. It’s one thing to train a child in the way he/she should go, it’s another thing for them to actually lead their lives on the objectives parents have instilled in them. … More Scares of Parenting

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Challenges of parenting grade-schoolers in the 21st century

Training children goes beyond setting rules and standards, it’s also leading by example. Parents’ lifestyle heavily influences the children. It’s one thing to teach and say, it’s a totally different thing to do. More than the Bible they will read, parents are first and foremost the book that every child reads. So first is the challenge of parenting/leading by example. … More Challenges of parenting grade-schoolers in the 21st century

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Story telling: Series 12

“Mama Savage was just asking about Nifemi”, Nifemi’s mother cuts in blatantly. She raised her brows to her mother in disapproval. It was her issue to discuss, not hers. Mr. Adeniji looked at his wife as though she just committed a grave offence. For some reason, he could not believe Nifemi’s issue would still come up in his house. However he was obliged to give Mama Savage due respect and full audience.

“What about Nifemi?” he asked, after he took his seat opposite the television set. He kept his irritated gaze on his wife. It was definitely a plot between mother and daughter as far as he was concerned. … More Story telling: Series 12

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Story telling: Series 10

When Olusegun came into the room, a rush of fresh cool air blew in through the curtains as though it followed him and almost like a magical entrance, the cool breeze rested on the baby. Unfamiliar to such cool, the baby shivered but with a smile; her first smile. Nifemi looked upon her baby and appreciated her innocent smile. Olusegun walked to Nifemi and the baby slowly. He sat on the armrest of Nifemi’s chair. He looked upon Nifemi and the baby in awe, just like that; a new life is made. A new chapter has begun. A smile formed on his lips, and then as he looked closely at his daughter, he said, “She is beautiful”. At that moment, Nifemi looked at Olusegun with wide wet eyes, her lips quivering as they showed mixed emotions. Olusegun embraced her and she held her baby closer. He had found his family and no one would ever take them away from him. “I love you. Thank you”, he said still holding them in his tight embrace. … More Story telling: Series 10

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Rejection and neglect

Have you ever wondered what the intent behind the question, “Is it a boy or a girl?” is? What difference really is that question fashioned to achieve? The joy of a new born shouldn’t be diminished by the gender of the child. But we find, more often the neglect and rejection of a girl-child normally starts from birth when the news of safe delivery is broken to the family and especially to the father. As soon as the gender status of a child is announced by the medical attendant after the delivery as a girl, some parents receive such supposedly good news with disappointment and dismay. While it is taught over and again that the sex of a girl is determined by the dominance of the male chromosomes, most men still castigate their wives for bearing a girl child. … More Rejection and neglect

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The moment my life changed forever

Growing up, I didn’t to like babies, especially crying babies. It was either crying babies or dirty diaper baby or drooling baby or something awful like that till my Mom had my two little baby sisters, especially the last one. Awwwwww J I still flush all over just thinking about her even when she’s a tall glass of creamy goodness now. We call each other soul mates. Like seriously guys, we are. It’s weird. We even finish each other’s sentences. Anyway, back to the subject.

So my Mom had my baby sisters and I fell in love with babies, well, my babies. With or without the crying, I was always mommy to them. I looked forward to having children of my own so much that I told my Mom I couldn’t wait. I didn’t understand why she slapped me when I said that. But thinking about it now, maybe she wasn’t seeing it my way. She probably was focusing on the act you do that leads to pregnancy. Hmm. Anyway, so I had that longing until I watched this documentary once on TV about a woman delivering a baby and I cried out so much and cursed. I couldn’t imagine going through that but here I am. God has been kind to me. I’m a Mommmmmmmy. J

I wanted more to be a Mommy than to be married. Did I just say that out loud? Sorry hon. But of course, I wanted to do it the right way. I knew I would give more attention to my children once they started to come but the experience in actuality is more beautifully indescribable at that moment when I birthed my son.

God is indeed awesome. The pain, the labor, the anxiety, all that was daunting but I knew I would carry my baby in my arms in a few hours and when I did, not even the effect of the epidural in my system could stop me from forcing a sit-up in just a few hours.

I remember a friend of mine congratulating me while asking me if I would do it all over again. I answered an emphatic YES because when your baby curls his tiny hands around your one finger and smiles at you even when you’re not sure he understands the movement on his lips and in his eyes, you know it was worth it. They say you forget the pain of childbirth after you see your baby. Maybe, I can’t say that but pain or no pain, childbirth changed my life. Being a Mommy, sleepless nights till date and all, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
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