In good times & in bad . . .

In the middle of the night, while Humphrey was asleep, Pauline quietly packed a suitcase and fled. She took the next flight back home and called her brother and a few close friends.

Her friends rushed to be by her side but they couldn’t help the debate … More In good times & in bad . . .

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What was it, she wondered – fetish?

 ‘Stay there’. Humphrey’s voice was filled with fervor.

Pauline fought to get up but Humphrey held her down with one strong hand and slammed the belt again and again.

Pauline felt as though her backside had been flayed. “Humphrey, please stop!’ she cried.

Finally, Humphrey stood up and took a deep, quivery breath. ‘It is alright now’. … More What was it, she wondered – fetish?

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Submit Wisdom to Ego

I heard a story of a man who said to a woman, “I know the reason you’re came to study in the university is because you want to find a husband. There’s no need to study any further because I’m ready to marry you now”. If only she had been foolish then but she completed her first degree and wanted to go for Maters degree but he would not have her do that if she is to be his wife.

Sometimes, really, all women have to do is to call the bluff. Because the man who would rather have a woman not have a first degree, eventually waited four long years. … More Submit Wisdom to Ego

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I’m at Peace

I said I couldn’t do this anymore,

But everyone seemed to have a better opinion of my life, of the capacity of my strength,

But they have no idea of the courage I’ve had to put up through these smiles.

I begged that he would stop hitting me,

But everyone seemed to be so sure I must be doing something to provoke him,

But they have no idea what the pain and aches feel like at the end of the day. … More I’m at Peace

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When a woman falls out of love

It’s one of the worst things a man wants to hear, especially when it comes out of the blue in the midst of what you thought was a good relationship. You don’t have screaming, horrible fights. There’s no abuse of any kind. You thought things were moving along nicely and suddenly she hits you with the revelation that she’s fallen out of love. Why would this happen? … More When a woman falls out of love

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Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?

I was watching Laura Ikeji’s dance post on Instagram the other day and my thoughts were not coordinated at first. A woman loves to showcase her children and celebrate her love for them, regardless of the amazing love she had or has for her husband from the beginning of their relationship. So if the woman is celebrating herself and her children, who is celebrating the husband? … More Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?

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Who wants an ungrateful wife?

When women hang out together and get down to gisting about stuffs, often times, when they’re not talking about fashion, they’re busy talking about guys! They’re either talking about how their man gives them so much loving or how much heartache he’s causing them. When they go on and on about men, you’ll begin to wonder if there aren’t at least a few good men left. But gisting about each other’s partner is not the exclusive reserve of women alone. Men, too, talk about women when they hang out. And we also complain about some of the negatives of our women. Few days ago, myself and some of my colleagues were at the eatery opposite the office having lunch when our discussion veered to women and how increasingly difficult it’s become these days to maintain a woman in this recession period.     … More Who wants an ungrateful wife?

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I don’t think we are actually sexually compatible

Whether you’re newly married or 10 years into marriage, sexual incompatibility can happen to anyone. So if you wondering, “Is it possible to prevent sexual incompatibility?” is “Yes,” it can be prevented or at least reduced by better preparation for marriage, but the answer is also, “No,” in that there will still be some degree of incompatibility once you put all the pieces of marriage together.

By all means discuss it ahead of time with a potential spouse if it’ll make you more comfortable. But once you get married, whatever the sexual situation is, that’s what you have to work with as well as you can. And of course, you might have to learn some things and change some things as well, whether it be your attitude, your responses, your level of patience and understanding, your thoughts and core beliefs, or your degree of faith, etc. Whatever the situation, you just have to work happily with it. … More I don’t think we are actually sexually compatible

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In-laws: Is there a difference between mine and yours?

When you married, you also became part of another family with its own set of expectations. There is need to recognize and respect those expectations within limits. However, none of those limits include:

Submerge all your own feelings, desires, preferences, and needs in the service of “doing things their way.”
Permit them to disrespect, control, or manipulate you for their own selfish ends.
It doesn’t entail “obeying” all their “parental” requests or requirements which, in some instances with some in-laws, may get out of control once entertained out of “respect”. … More In-laws: Is there a difference between mine and yours?

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Did I become less privileged when I got married?

Women start off their lives wanting one thing – to be cherished. Cherish, you’ll say is relative. Could be in a relationship, in the society, in whatever space they find themselves. If women feel less cherished in one space, they remove themselves physically or emotionally from that space into another that is appreciative of them. … More Did I become less privileged when I got married?

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