Taking a chance in life is one of the most difficult things a person can do. Humans are genetically wired to crave and pursue comfort in every aspect of life. Any deviation from this course and we become paranoid and somewhat out of balance. Life, and the work it demands to meet all of our basic needs, is all about balance. Our pursuit of happiness and self-actualization is no different. The good news is that balance looks different to everyone and no one person is right in what appears to appeal to them. However, a person’s definition of balance is a mix of their innate wants and basic needs and their personal opinions about how those things relate to the world around them, otherwise, there is a displacement which puts a person lopsided. … More The thought of “second marriage”
Marriages may be made in heaven. However, so are thunder and lightning. Hiccups should not come as a surprise to any couple. Some issues are so minor and can be resolved within a little time. It’s the more prolonged issues that are a concern.
One does not have to be a psychologist to know that most of individual’s behavioral issues are somehow related to his/her past. As such couples are encouraged to first identify the issues that are the source of their unhappiness. They should then objectively analyze their respective background and see if any of these issues have arisen because of childhood problems. They might find that most of their issues are somehow related to their background. With mutual trust, help and support many of these issues can be resolved by the couples themselves. … More Childhood experiences & Impact on Marriage Relationships
One of many captivating moments was the infusion of the Afro pop world into the service. From the sermon to the choir rendition – lovely is an understatement. Bishop Curry delivered a meaningful and inspiring sermon in which he discussed the power of love. “Imagine if love is the way… When love is the way, we will let justice roll down in… We’d actually treat each other like we are actually family.” And family is what the world needs. It is how the home needs to perceive itself, not pulled apart by differences in culture, beliefs, age, skin color and other biases. … More The Royal Wedding: Between God & Man
I heard a story of a man who said to a woman, “I know the reason you’re came to study in the university is because you want to find a husband. There’s no need to study any further because I’m ready to marry you now”. If only she had been foolish then but she completed her first degree and wanted to go for Maters degree but he would not have her do that if she is to be his wife.
Sometimes, really, all women have to do is to call the bluff. Because the man who would rather have a woman not have a first degree, eventually waited four long years. … More Submit Wisdom to Ego
As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, it is important to know that love is not just a one day demonstration. Valentine’s Day is a day to show that Special One that you really appreciate them in your life on a day when the world celebrates love. Many people want to be loved but have no one. Many want to be held but have no one. Many people just need someone to smile back at them. So for you who have love, celebrate it and while we’re at it, let’s take some time to learn from the world’s happiest couples. … More 8 Lessons in love from the World’s Happiest Couples
We hold on to so many things that cause a great deal of stress and frustration in our relationships, and instead of letting them all go and allowing our relationships to flourish and blossom, we cling on to them. But if you want to live the kind of relationship you’ve always fantasized, you need to give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and embrace change. … More Making your marriage work
The grass really isn’t always greener on the other side. If it appears so, you should consider how really green it would be if you were the one tendering it. There’s no need wondering that far. Just take a look at your side of the grass and you’ll find your answer. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If it were so, it won’t still be as attractive as it is seemingly tempting. … More Supporting your Husband to be the Best he can be
Someone said women change, hypothetically, every five years. Now the way a 25 year old lady will think and reason is different from what the priorities of a 30 year old woman are, which differs from what a 35 year old’s point of views and perspectives are about life and so on. If you find a married 25 year old lady and perhaps even working, she just feels blessed to be married and working and that sort of gives her satisfaction. She rolls with the routine by the day and everything is dandy. By the time she’s 30 years old and still has access to exposure, she’s probably thinking of more fulfilling things to do with her life now. … More How are you dealing with your wife’s evolution?
One way of coping with conflict is to sweep things under the carpet which basically means “To conceal a problem expediently, rather than remedy it thoroughly.” Sometimes the tendency to sweep things under the rug comes with the hope that what is concealed will remain undiscovered. Maybe we also do this because the truth is too painful to bear, or we fear the other person’s reaction and the consequences, or we hope things can be resolved without raising the issue.
The problem with expectations is that they’re just like an opinion. Everyone has one and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. This is the main cause of conflicts and issues in a relationship.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does right, conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to show love, for instance, will probably differ but does that make one of the ways wrong? Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. … More Managing Love’s Expectations