Taking a chance in life is one of the most difficult things a person can do. Humans are genetically wired to crave and pursue comfort in every aspect of life. Any deviation from this course and we become paranoid and somewhat out of balance. Life, and the work it demands to meet all of our basic needs, is all about balance. Our pursuit of happiness and self-actualization is no different. The good news is that balance looks different to everyone and no one person is right in what appears to appeal to them. However, a person’s definition of balance is a mix of their innate wants and basic needs and their personal opinions about how those things relate to the world around them, otherwise, there is a displacement which puts a person lopsided. … More The thought of “second marriage”
One of many captivating moments was the infusion of the Afro pop world into the service. From the sermon to the choir rendition – lovely is an understatement. Bishop Curry delivered a meaningful and inspiring sermon in which he discussed the power of love. “Imagine if love is the way… When love is the way, we will let justice roll down in… We’d actually treat each other like we are actually family.” And family is what the world needs. It is how the home needs to perceive itself, not pulled apart by differences in culture, beliefs, age, skin color and other biases. … More The Royal Wedding: Between God & Man
I said I couldn’t do this anymore,
But everyone seemed to have a better opinion of my life, of the capacity of my strength,
But they have no idea of the courage I’ve had to put up through these smiles.
I begged that he would stop hitting me,
But everyone seemed to be so sure I must be doing something to provoke him,
But they have no idea what the pain and aches feel like at the end of the day. … More I’m at Peace
As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, it is important to know that love is not just a one day demonstration. Valentine’s Day is a day to show that Special One that you really appreciate them in your life on a day when the world celebrates love. Many people want to be loved but have no one. Many want to be held but have no one. Many people just need someone to smile back at them. So for you who have love, celebrate it and while we’re at it, let’s take some time to learn from the world’s happiest couples. … More 8 Lessons in love from the World’s Happiest Couples
For to have is to hold, for richer or poorer,
In sickness or health, in good or bad times till death only
Yet he became unforgiving only because she became unrelenting
A little patience and smile
Yet became unbearable till realizations were made clear … More Her King & Her
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind. The pattern of mutual disrespect actually feeds on itself. The more one partner is rude and inconsiderate, the more likely it is the other spouse or partner will behave in similar ways. … More Respect: A key to successful relationship