Raising children would probably be the most tasking responsibility parents have. It’s easy to give instructions to guide them and maybe even spank them when they fail to follow your instructions. Being the example the children need isn’t always as easy as, “You are only allowed 30 minutes on your phone daily”, or “You are allowed on 1 hour with TV on school days”, or “You should be in bed by 8:30 pm on school days”. … More Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom
I saw a picture message on Instagram on Sunday asking people to drop comments to describe their fathers. I was shocked at the alarming number of insulting comments and curses by people to their Dads. Like seriously? “He-goat”, “Bastard”, “What does that even mean?”, “There’s no such word in my dictionary”. And I wondered, how does a father, who is supposed to be the epitome of honor and pride in the family become such object of ridicule and hate? … More Celebration with Reservations
One of many captivating moments was the infusion of the Afro pop world into the service. From the sermon to the choir rendition – lovely is an understatement. Bishop Curry delivered a meaningful and inspiring sermon in which he discussed the power of love. “Imagine if love is the way… When love is the way, we will let justice roll down in… We’d actually treat each other like we are actually family.” And family is what the world needs. It is how the home needs to perceive itself, not pulled apart by differences in culture, beliefs, age, skin color and other biases. … More The Royal Wedding: Between God & Man
As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, it is important to know that love is not just a one day demonstration. Valentine’s Day is a day to show that Special One that you really appreciate them in your life on a day when the world celebrates love. Many people want to be loved but have no one. Many want to be held but have no one. Many people just need someone to smile back at them. So for you who have love, celebrate it and while we’re at it, let’s take some time to learn from the world’s happiest couples. … More 8 Lessons in love from the World’s Happiest Couples
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
As time goes by, life happens. We look forward and ahead to things yet to come. Perhaps if we knew what tomorrow holds, we might not look forward to it as much as we want tomorrow to be better. I thought life as a teenager was more eventful than the early twenties which was filled with more appreciation for life and family than I can remember. I remember the New Year eves spent watching fire works with the entire family and the house full of laughter and giggles. But for whatever challenges those years brought, nothing beats 2017. … More What a year!
A famous Nigeria actress said, “The best gift you can give your child is the Word of God”. God did indeed give you these children for this time. You need to help them discover the secret in the Word of God that will take them to wonderful places, even beyond this world. Daily instruction in God’s Word is key in raising children in this age. The Word is very clear on men and women, marriage, sexual perversion, and right and wrong. There are so many teachings and personal opinions on the internet which can, quite frankly, get your mind twisted if you’re not even grounded in a Truth. If for the only reason that the Bible is a book of morals and ideals, then there is no harm in obeying to the letter, without additions or subtractions. It’s very clear on the hardening of hearts to the truth, and on fools being led astray. Read it with and to your children daily. Memorize passages. Explain how they relate to our practical times. … More Raising kids in a perverse generation
Some say you can’t call it single parenting when you have a partner because that would mean you at least have some sort of support to raise and handle the children emotionally and financially. But in the case where you’re practically the only emotional and financial support your children have, it’s safe to say you’re in the single parenting category. At its most stark, being a single parent is doing EVERYTHING – being the breadwinner, doing all of the parenting and most importantly, having no back up when either one goes south. Being a single parent is generally not staying at home with your children while someone else works to put a roof over your heads. It’s leaving your children with someone else, paying for the privilege and going out to work to put a roof over everyone’s heads. Then it’s arriving home after working a full day and being hit with all the parenting stuff on top of the full day’s paid work. … More Single parenting with your partner?
The grass really isn’t always greener on the other side. If it appears so, you should consider how really green it would be if you were the one tendering it. There’s no need wondering that far. Just take a look at your side of the grass and you’ll find your answer. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If it were so, it won’t still be as attractive as it is seemingly tempting. … More Supporting your Husband to be the Best he can be
Someone said women change, hypothetically, every five years. Now the way a 25 year old lady will think and reason is different from what the priorities of a 30 year old woman are, which differs from what a 35 year old’s point of views and perspectives are about life and so on. If you find a married 25 year old lady and perhaps even working, she just feels blessed to be married and working and that sort of gives her satisfaction. She rolls with the routine by the day and everything is dandy. By the time she’s 30 years old and still has access to exposure, she’s probably thinking of more fulfilling things to do with her life now. … More How are you dealing with your wife’s evolution?