Respect: A key to successful relationship

Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind. The pattern of mutual disrespect actually feeds on itself. The more one partner is rude and inconsiderate, the more likely it is the other spouse or partner will behave in similar ways. … More Respect: A key to successful relationship

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Making your marriage work

We hold on to so many things that cause a great deal of stress and frustration in our relationships, and instead of letting them all go and allowing our relationships to flourish and blossom, we cling on to them. But if you want to live the kind of relationship you’ve always fantasized, you need to give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and embrace change. … More Making your marriage work

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The fish who loved a bird

“Come with me my love and our fates we will cheat. Come to this enchanted place where the sea and sky meet.” 

Ariyike turns around with a smile. It has been almost a month since she’s hoped to run into him again. Since the last time she didn’t meet him where she left him. She thinks she recognizes that voice. And she is right. It is him; her ‘unconcealed desire’.

“She smiles”, he declares, holding his hand over his chest in that way that reveals how relieved he is that she welcomes him this time. … More The fish who loved a bird

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Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?

I was watching Laura Ikeji’s dance post on Instagram the other day and my thoughts were not coordinated at first. A woman loves to showcase her children and celebrate her love for them, regardless of the amazing love she had or has for her husband from the beginning of their relationship. So if the woman is celebrating herself and her children, who is celebrating the husband? … More Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?

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Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable

I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.

But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.

Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time. … More Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable

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Why women cheat

On my drive home through busy traffic, I watched this random woman on the road roll her big ‘bakasi’ as she walked on, probably heading home after a hard day’s work and for some weird reason I thought to myself – this woman’s husband must be lucky to have all that bakasi all to himself. Then I was quick to think, men aren’t altogether predictable as well. Her husband might probably just have had enough of all her deliciousness and is seeking some new ‘feel’ elsewhere. While it might be easier and more convenient for some men to cheat, women have also been known to exploit this area too for reason best known to them. … More Why women cheat

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Citing irreconcilable differences

Some people claim that irreconcilable differences is a no-fault grounds for divorce, which means neither party committed any sort of extenuating act, such as adultery, abandonment or extreme cruelty. In other words, no-fault divorce is just like it sounds – no single party is at fault for the break of the marriage. Even Wikipedia states that ‘in the United States, this is one of several possible grounds’. Once again I wonder, when did this become a confident excuse for divorce in Nigeria? … More Citing irreconcilable differences

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Logic & Emotion in a relationship

All human brains have an emotional and logical side but we all have this in common — an unending strife in which both sides of our brains are locked in conflict at all times. Conflict of decision making happens us all. It is impossible to quantify the countless decisions we make in one day. Decisions we make daily range from mundane choices, like whether to sit on the sofa or the chair, to decisions as profound as asking someone for their hand in marriage. Adopting the sustainable style for that marriage is another daily decision exercise we need to be conscious of. Though our choices may seem insignificant, they are actually adding up, over time, to equal our destinies. … More Logic & Emotion in a relationship

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