Lack of Expression kills Appreciation

Imagine a baby who can’t speak but cries for every want – cold, hot, hungry, sleepy, wants to play, wants to be picked up, fighting sleep and the likes. No matter how much we want to calm a crying baby, it’s usually frustrating after trying many things and the baby is still wailing. That’s how unappreciative lack of expression can be. Hence a sudden reaction or responses thereafter will not be as appreciated as a constructive self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean that every thought, even anger, ought to be communication as they are but communication makes effort and situations better understood and appreciated.   … More Lack of Expression kills Appreciation

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How can a man love another man’s victim?

In front of her mirror, she takes off her huge sun-glasses which she’s used to cover the purple bruise under her right eye. She sighed. She reaches for her cleansing wipes and braces herself as she cleans off the concealer cosmetic she’d used to cover up the red bruise on her arm and legs. She gets into the shower and before she could feel sorry for herself, she’s back in the kitchen making food for her husband who delights in snapping and hitting her at will. He was just generally unappreciative of her. His aim was to bring her permanently under his submission regardless of the fact that he married her a socialite.

She will not leave him because everyone thinks they look good together. She will not leave him because she wants to be understanding and make excuses for him. She will not leave him because he takes care of his responsibilities toward her. For her, it would be futile to leave. Otherwise – “Leave to where?” … More How can a man love another man’s victim?

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What are we teaching our sons?

It’s more convenient to pass buck when it comes to taking responsibility but consequences always remain unto whom it will affect. There is a lot of craze about teaching our daughters basically to be the perfect wives. Our African mothers put a lot of pressure on daughters only because they feel girls need a stamp of approval to be accepted in the society. The empowerment for the girl child is another topic on its own but for now, it has become imperative to draw our consciousness to the boy child. What are we teaching our sons? … More What are we teaching our sons?

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Tuesday Spur

Hi people!

Hope you’re all getting settled into the new week. Monday must have been great or fun for some of us. For those who struggled through it, cheer up. You’re still alive to struggle through it.

Motivating and encouraging each other has become an important part of human existence. Even the Bible says, “do not forsake the gathering of the brethren”. It does have its many advantages. We all need it, live for it, live by it and renew our inspiration and purpose by it. I always like to refer to my father because for as long as I can remember he has been the main feature in my life, my mentor and the first man in my life. From scolding me through elementary school when I wouldn’t get a simple math equation right to spoiling me silly with love to when he consistently, without warning, drops words of wisdom and encouragement which I’m still finding useful till date. A lot of my friends call me Daddy’s girl. I’m proud of it. I won’t have it any other way.

Love you too mom :*

Let me share a few of his words to encourage someone else this morning.
1.Progressive planning is the key to achieving your dreams.
2.Plan all you want, it doesn’t always mean things will work according to plan but at every point when it seems your plans aren’t working out, dig deep and reconnect with your inner purpose, your initial drive, and your dreams from childhood. Let it motivate you and keep you going, against the odds.
3.You are different from every other person, even from your siblings. It works for A might not work for you. Never run your life by anyone else’s standard. Run your race, live your life, stay focus and what is yours will come to you.
4.If you live or die, people already formed their opinion of you and will talk about you. So why not live to fulfil your happiness to the satisfaction of your conscience?

I say to myself that I am in no competition with anyone else but who I was yesterday. The race might be slow, but if stay the course, I know I will surely get there.

So be encouraged and reconnect with your initial zeal in your pursuit of prosperity.

Enjoy the rest of your week. 🙂
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A beautiful tomorrow

‘And when bad times come, I will be with you’, says the Lord, not if when bad. So bad times will come, the cloud cannot always be bright and shiny but the rains and storms come to complete a perfect cycle of seasons and time. Seasons and times give us the perfect opportunity to grow and shine over and over again. So it doesn’t matter what yesterday served or what today is dishing but if you’ve got the right attitude to learn and grow, you will enjoy a beautiful tomorrow.

I always though Abuja was a city of hills and deserts far before I lived there and I was right. But far more beautiful are the rare silver linings intersecting the mountains and the sky. Beautiful indeed – breathtaking. So it doesn’t matter how harsh the hamattan there is or how noisy the winds can get but the reward is in the skies, making the most beautiful horizon, giving full assurance that it can only get better.

After all, ‘there’s a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day’. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us – Romans 5:3-5.

Relish the rest of 2016!
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