Love is a beautiful thing. In my language, they say “love is a temptation”. Don’t ask me, I still can’t relate but for those who believe love comes with ups and downs, I still can’t relate. Life has ups and downs but not love except we do certain things that trigger change in behavior which affects love’s long-suffering. Otherwise, love is love, constant and even grows if nurtured.
I can’t imagine a love that doesn’t care or manifests or gives most especially. The capacity in which these things are expressed is what qualifies a person as a lover, not by mere words of “I love you”. … More If you were the opposite sex, would you be happy to be loved the way you are loving your partner now?
So February is here, finally! And it’s the month of love. I’m usually not as excited about February being the month of love but this time, I’m excited to explore the exclusive events about Valentine. So I’ll try to do some snooping and bring to you some fun events you can attend to spice up your Valentine’s day, whether you’re single or not.
So here’s the first I found: … More It’s February … finally
Did you feel pressured to settle down with a partner, or is this someone you actually want to be with? Take an assessment of situation that surrounded you at the time you felt compelled you were in love in the first place. Did you have a loss? Are you getting older and lonelier? Are you the only sibling or cousin not married or at least ‘with’ someone? Divorce, death of a parent, aging, and other losses can propel people to mate with the next available person, whether wrong or right for you. … More Are you in love with the right person?
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
Every man wants to be with a beautiful woman. It’s just that if she’s a bundle of insecurities wrapped in some aesthetic appeal, that beauty will wane. It’s an odd occurrence, but personality and confidence make a woman physically sexier. The way men perceive women is generally how they perceive themselves. Lots of confidence – sexy. Lots of complaining and fishing for validation – not so much. Yet there should be a balance not to appear over confidence to the point where women exude the “I don’t really need you” attitude. … More What men wish woman know
The problem with expectations is that they’re just like an opinion. Everyone has one and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. This is the main cause of conflicts and issues in a relationship.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does right, conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to show love, for instance, will probably differ but does that make one of the ways wrong? Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. … More Managing Love’s Expectations
When women hang out together and get down to gisting about stuffs, often times, when they’re not talking about fashion, they’re busy talking about guys! They’re either talking about how their man gives them so much loving or how much heartache he’s causing them. When they go on and on about men, you’ll begin to wonder if there aren’t at least a few good men left. But gisting about each other’s partner is not the exclusive reserve of women alone. Men, too, talk about women when they hang out. And we also complain about some of the negatives of our women. Few days ago, myself and some of my colleagues were at the eatery opposite the office having lunch when our discussion veered to women and how increasingly difficult it’s become these days to maintain a woman in this recession period. … More Who wants an ungrateful wife?
You know, typically, I can’t think of one good reason why men fall in love. Not that women are not complementing in so many ways but men just like to be men (egocentric) most times that they forget that it’s OK to just be human too. Be vulnerable or not, it doesn’t mean you haven’t got the same red blood running through your veins like a woman’s. So many things make a man but you might as well be just a man – the man with the 6 pack abs, the man riding in the back sit of his Bentley, the man retiring before the age of 40, the man traveling the world with no care in the world. The difference in men, for a woman, is the communication substance. What makes a man speak with respect, care, truly listening to a woman determines, eventually, the quality of fulfillment he’ll have with his 6 pack abs or when his cruising in his Bentley or what he does with the rest of his time after retiring at 40 or what the world will mean to him then when he’s traveling the length and breadth of it without care. … More Why men fall in love
Men equate financial stability with their provider skills. The more unstable things are, the more they feel like they have failed as a provider. If he’s making less than he used to and the bills aren’t able to be paid, he might hide it even at the detriment of your distrust opinion of him after certain expectations are not been met. As a supportive partner, stay involved in the finances so that life’s curve balls don’t deal both of you. This is when he need to be reassured of their partner’s love and loyalty the most. … More Secrets men keep
After all, you can’t love someone you truly don’t know exceptionally and no one is expecting you to open your heart to someone in one fell swoop anyway. It’ll all be part of the memories you’ll grow to appreciate as you age together. A healthy happy marriage is something you create, it’s not based on an emotion that arises out of thin air. The real reasons to love someone unconditionally are the ones you discover over time. The more you love someone, the more attractive they become. When you assume that love is just a feeling that just happens, you are always at the whim of it, rather than consciously creating it in your life. To love really is an emotional capability, not a sexual capability. … More Grow to love you