Cross roads, decisions, choices – sometimes these are not options for us. Life may be full of choices but at the same time, when life choose to happen, that’s exactly what it does – it just happens and without consent from us. Resilience is the key to survival and our reactions say a lot about who we are. … More Where do I go from here?
It’s amazing how the younger generation seem to know what’s good for them in terms of love and relationship. While it’s still working, it’s love but when it’s challenging, it becomes a dangerous situation to be in. That’s when you hear things like, ‘who feelings epp?’ … More Love Don’t Care
At Peter’s private guesthouse, we wasted no time getting down to business. It felt like so much tension in our bodies when we finally consummated. He was nothing like Dan – gentler, more mature, more expressive, encouraging me to be more than myself. I wanted to be all that he would appreciate and remember for a long time. I wanted him to regret being married to someone else so I must have exhausted myself in the little knowledge of romantic sexual intercourse that I had come to know. I had experienced aggression about intercourse I never want to remember and the gentle side that Dan graced me with but this aggressive passion with Peter was the best of both experiences. … More Part 13: Bitten
“An hour is fine. I’ll just freshen up and get ready”, I spoke before I could let my thoughts out loud.
I was in his office. It was after 5:30 in the evening. Quite a number of the office guys were trooping out of the building when I got there. He came out of his office when he sighted me through the wooden blinds. He was on a call though. He kissed both my cheeks one after the other. I would have blushed but he didn’t give me the privilege of doing that. I was also somewhat embarrassed that he would do that in the open office where a few other people were. … More Part 12: Bites worse than barks
There are a lot of marriages out there that aren’t thriving. Yet the bulk of the responsibility to keep it together is on the woman. Who teaches girls or rather who brain-washes girls that their responsibility is to baby their marriage and chase their husbands till they die? When they are babying another adult, who will baby them? Or are women destined to be the sad haggard one in life? Yet when these women reach out for help, the general word is, it’s your cross or lot in life and then you find that they resign to living out their days with a spouse who is flawed and making them anxious and miserable.
I have both female and male friends who like to engage in very meaningful and intimate conversations about love and life. I listen especially closely to my male friends because they offer insights that help me navigate my own relationship with my husband.
Listening to people has made it as simple as it can be. Everything boils down to:
You make your choices and live with them;
You change your mind and make new choices. … More It Boils Down To Two Choices