A famous Nigeria actress said, “The best gift you can give your child is the Word of God”. God did indeed give you these children for this time. You need to help them discover the secret in the Word of God that will take them to wonderful places, even beyond this world. Daily instruction in God’s Word is key in raising children in this age. The Word is very clear on men and women, marriage, sexual perversion, and right and wrong. There are so many teachings and personal opinions on the internet which can, quite frankly, get your mind twisted if you’re not even grounded in a Truth. If for the only reason that the Bible is a book of morals and ideals, then there is no harm in obeying to the letter, without additions or subtractions. It’s very clear on the hardening of hearts to the truth, and on fools being led astray. Read it with and to your children daily. Memorize passages. Explain how they relate to our practical times. … More Raising kids in a perverse generation
Speaking of responsibilities – I was driving through a community recently and saw these group of public school pupils outside the school premise, cutting the overgrown grasses with cutlasses and hoes. At first, I thought – wow, who let’s their child leave home and come be a gardener at school? Can’t the school afford aboki to do the job? Is it safe for them to be outside when they should be catching up on the new term’s curriculum? Is it safe, basically? … More Raising Children: Differentiating between child labour, abuse and what’s normal/healthy.
Ada is a sixteen year old enthusiast who wanted to be a soloist with one of the big Nigerian record labels. She often gathered the other children together and make everyone join in on her singing competitions, knowing full well that none of the other children had the kind of sensational talents that she had. Onome, though a year younger than Ada, had her unique talent too which often confused even her parents. Onome is a good actress. She often dramatized her way out of any unwanted situation she found herself and her parents couldn’t tell it was all an act for years.
A conman had approached them individually, having watched them from afar for months. Different in talent they may be but they both had the same trait which is common to his other victims – desperate for fame. … More Protect me passionately
“My mother trusted too much. She trusted a pastor with alone with me when I was just 7 and the pastor molested me. I wanted to tell my mother but I hoped she would notice on her own that sometime was different about me but she couldn’t tell. When I told eventually told her, she only got angry that I could even think of such a lie and she shut me up without ever verifying my story”, she said to me. … More Child Prostitution & Internet Child Pornography
Growing up, there was a Northern family who lived in my father’s backyard. It was a family of 2 girls, both in their teens. The elder was 16 years old when she was given away in marriage. When I asked questions, I gathered she had been betrothed from a much early age but her betroth chose to keep her in her parents’ house for grooming. I couldn’t understand this. So I wondered what age exactly she must have been betrothed and if she would have been aware of what happened at the ceremony or the giveaway agreement, as I choose to call it, or if she would even understand what it meant to be married. … More Early/Child marriage
Have you ever wondered why the female gender gets so complicated sometimes? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps it’s not a deliberate act to be complex? There’s been a lot of memes around about how you just can’t ever understand the female gender or what they want or how to make them happy. Well, while this might be true sometimes, it can’t be true all the time. This erratic behavior or moods in the female gender isn’t a deliberate act for attention, at least not all the time. It’s all embedded in the hormones, the changing pattern of a girl or woman is due to the many changes they go through at different stages of their lives till death. How does this affect a girl child you may wonder or how is this an issue at all? Think again. … More Teaching body awareness in girls
Have you ever wondered what the intent behind the question, “Is it a boy or a girl?” is? What difference really is that question fashioned to achieve? The joy of a new born shouldn’t be diminished by the gender of the child. But we find, more often the neglect and rejection of a girl-child normally starts from birth when the news of safe delivery is broken to the family and especially to the father. As soon as the gender status of a child is announced by the medical attendant after the delivery as a girl, some parents receive such supposedly good news with disappointment and dismay. While it is taught over and again that the sex of a girl is determined by the dominance of the male chromosomes, most men still castigate their wives for bearing a girl child. … More Rejection and neglect
So you know how music, loud pounding music, has become an awareness and publicity stunt in Lagos now? Well, maybe in other parts of Nigeria as well but the experience on Allen Avenue in Ikeja-Lagos is quite interesting actually. It keeps me company in rush-hour traffic jam during my drive home. So the other day, … More The Hold of Music