Is it necessary for couples or intending couples to have “the talk”? In most cases, adults just go with the flow, shying away from addressing a lot of topics even when they begin to affect their relationship in some ways. No one just really wants to talk about the ‘not-so-good’ things that may be affecting intimacy in the relationship. Everyone just somehow wants to be fine with where the relationship is. … More “The Talk”
Imagine a baby who can’t speak but cries for every want – cold, hot, hungry, sleepy, wants to play, wants to be picked up, fighting sleep and the likes. No matter how much we want to calm a crying baby, it’s usually frustrating after trying many things and the baby is still wailing. That’s how unappreciative lack of expression can be. Hence a sudden reaction or responses thereafter will not be as appreciated as a constructive self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean that every thought, even anger, ought to be communication as they are but communication makes effort and situations better understood and appreciated. … More Lack of Expression kills Appreciation
Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind. The pattern of mutual disrespect actually feeds on itself. The more one partner is rude and inconsiderate, the more likely it is the other spouse or partner will behave in similar ways. … More Respect: A key to successful relationship
We hold on to so many things that cause a great deal of stress and frustration in our relationships, and instead of letting them all go and allowing our relationships to flourish and blossom, we cling on to them. But if you want to live the kind of relationship you’ve always fantasized, you need to give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and embrace change. … More Making your marriage work
The grass really isn’t always greener on the other side. If it appears so, you should consider how really green it would be if you were the one tendering it. There’s no need wondering that far. Just take a look at your side of the grass and you’ll find your answer. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If it were so, it won’t still be as attractive as it is seemingly tempting. … More Supporting your Husband to be the Best he can be
One way of coping with conflict is to sweep things under the carpet which basically means “To conceal a problem expediently, rather than remedy it thoroughly.” Sometimes the tendency to sweep things under the rug comes with the hope that what is concealed will remain undiscovered. Maybe we also do this because the truth is too painful to bear, or we fear the other person’s reaction and the consequences, or we hope things can be resolved without raising the issue.
I was watching Laura Ikeji’s dance post on Instagram the other day and my thoughts were not coordinated at first. A woman loves to showcase her children and celebrate her love for them, regardless of the amazing love she had or has for her husband from the beginning of their relationship. So if the woman is celebrating herself and her children, who is celebrating the husband? … More Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?
It’s a new week but I want to imagine love is still in the way. With Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian’s wedding last week Thursday to Banky W and Adesuwa Etomi’s wedding on Sunday, I enjoyed every bit of it from Instagram like many others. Smiles. I guess it just goes to show, for those still expecting that wedding miracle that it isn’t over for the year. After all, it is the season of wedding bells. I hope yours’ will be one of those we’ll hear before 2017 is done.
But speaking of weddings, we tend to get carried away with that one day event most times as opposed to putting preparations and plans unto the forever after. Don’t get me wrong – I love weddings. I’ve loved weddings since I was my Dad’s date to a wedding ceremony sometime in 1996. I thought the bride looked like an angel and the happiest woman I ever saw and secretly I prayed the couple will remain happy forever. … More Don’t plan a wedding, Plan a marriage
Relationships between fathers and daughters can truly be one of a kind, especially depending on the presence of a functional father figure in the upbringing of the daughter. Mothers are wired to give and show love to their children but with that comes minimal discipline which tends to put children on the flip side of independence and confidence. For the purpose of this article, I’ll attempt to do justice to the growing search of a father’s role in a father-daughter relationship. … More Fathers & Daughters
Whether you’re newly married or 10 years into marriage, sexual incompatibility can happen to anyone. So if you wondering, “Is it possible to prevent sexual incompatibility?” is “Yes,” it can be prevented or at least reduced by better preparation for marriage, but the answer is also, “No,” in that there will still be some degree of incompatibility once you put all the pieces of marriage together.
By all means discuss it ahead of time with a potential spouse if it’ll make you more comfortable. But once you get married, whatever the sexual situation is, that’s what you have to work with as well as you can. And of course, you might have to learn some things and change some things as well, whether it be your attitude, your responses, your level of patience and understanding, your thoughts and core beliefs, or your degree of faith, etc. Whatever the situation, you just have to work happily with it. … More I don’t think we are actually sexually compatible