Things to know about pregnancy

Being informed ahead of a task may better prepare you of expectations. But really, sometimes, there’s no amount of information that takes away the beauty or challenges or pain that comes with an actual task like being pregnant. I like to use myself as an example in most scenarios. When I got married, I just really wanted to be pregnant and have a baby. I’ve loved the thought of it since as far back as primary school but nothing prepared me totally for what to know about pregnancy or what to expect during pregnancy. Yes, I read books like What to expect when you’re expecting and followed relevant sites like BabyCenter but I was still confused at certain times of what to do and how to handle myself during that period.  

So for newlyweds or those expecting to be pregnant, here are some of the stuff you need to know about being pregnant to better inform and prepare you of the wonderful journey ahead. … More Things to know about pregnancy

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Why we make out with eyes closed

Losing one sense is known to heighten all other senses. If you close your eyes while making out, or your partner does, don’t necessarily jump to conclusions that it is a negative thing, it could be anything, and maybe they’re just focusing on feeling, tasting, smelling and hearing you. … More Why we make out with eyes closed

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Nipple Issues

Dedicated to all women in light of breast cancer awareness:

Women have, at one time or another, had nipple issues. Maybe its discharge, with clear, milky, dark, or even bloody fluid leaking from the nipples. Or perhaps a slight sensitivity to a burning soreness. And sometimes it’s a rash, what looks like an infection, or even an inversion, when your nipple decides to retreat into your breast.

Women palaver! However, it is essential to be in tune with your breasts and body generally as a woman so that you can detect when something is feeling out of place before it blows out of proportion. Here are some of the things to look out for in ensuring a healthy breast via nipple sensitivity: … More Nipple Issues

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Female Circumcision & Body Awareness

Body awareness is always something I love to advocate to both male and female. I always wondered if I would know how to raise a male child, especially caring and knowing how to care for his – you know – genitals or those things that make a male child. This is so because I grew up with 5 sisters and one big brother. I don’t know much about the male body care so I nervous to have a male child. But I have one as my first child, and if I do say so myself, I am doing a great job especially because I have little or no impute from the Grandmas. So naturally for my daughter, I am more understanding and connected.

So here’s the thing, God commanded Abraham to circumcise his son on the 8th day so Christians emulate that. However painful it is for the baby and mother to bear that, I understand it has to happen. What I don’t get, though, is what exactly do people clip away when they circumcise female children?

A friend once asked me (awkward) if the urine passage way is different from the vagina. So like I said, I love to be an advocate for body awareness but it was interesting that a 36 year mother didn’t know the difference. You see, she was circumcised as a child and I wonder, really, the extent of that effect on her feminism or womanhood.

So what makes a person want to circumcise their female child? And what really are the advantages, if any, and disadvantages of female circumcision? I watched a TV documentary/movie some time ago about how ladies later on in life either find intercourse excruciating because of circumcision or they don’t even enjoy it at all or how it imparts on their body consciousness and awareness alertness or how it just altogether makes them feel less of a complete woman. However, according to UNFPA, female circumcision has serious implications for the sexual and reproductive health. Little wonder! I imagine the exposure of the female genitalia to diseases and infections.

What then is the necessity of female genital mutilation if it exposes and takes away the natural coverings of a woman’s privacy, removing the clitoral hood and clitoral glans, removal of the inner and outer labia and closure of the vulva? In this last procedure, known as infibulation, a small hole is left for the passage of urine and menstrual fluid. Perhaps, this is why my friend didn’t know the difference?

In 2016, UNICEF estimated 200million women had undergone the procedure in 27 countries in Africa, Indonesia, Iraq Kurdistan and Yemen. It feels unbelievable that we don’t discourage this barbaric inhuman act. And to think that it’s done so crudely using razor blade.

In any case, I strongly advocate that this has to stop. There is no aesthetic or modesty in risking so much of one’s womanhood. Body consciousness and awareness is nothing to be shameful about. It has more advantage, even, than harm. So embrace your sexuality, talk about it if you need to and get the necessary education for your good and your daughter’s. Heck, for the good of womanhood generally.

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