Did you feel pressured to settle down with a partner, or is this someone you actually want to be with? Take an assessment of situation that surrounded you at the time you felt compelled you were in love in the first place. Did you have a loss? Are you getting older and lonelier? Are you the only sibling or cousin not married or at least ‘with’ someone? Divorce, death of a parent, aging, and other losses can propel people to mate with the next available person, whether wrong or right for you. … More Are you in love with the right person?
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
Imagine a baby who can’t speak but cries for every want – cold, hot, hungry, sleepy, wants to play, wants to be picked up, fighting sleep and the likes. No matter how much we want to calm a crying baby, it’s usually frustrating after trying many things and the baby is still wailing. That’s how unappreciative lack of expression can be. Hence a sudden reaction or responses thereafter will not be as appreciated as a constructive self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean that every thought, even anger, ought to be communication as they are but communication makes effort and situations better understood and appreciated. … More Lack of Expression kills Appreciation
As time goes by, life happens. We look forward and ahead to things yet to come. Perhaps if we knew what tomorrow holds, we might not look forward to it as much as we want tomorrow to be better. I thought life as a teenager was more eventful than the early twenties which was filled with more appreciation for life and family than I can remember. I remember the New Year eves spent watching fire works with the entire family and the house full of laughter and giggles. But for whatever challenges those years brought, nothing beats 2017. … More What a year!
Meeting exciting and intriguing new people is fun. If they excite you beyond your anticipation, friendship ensues and the rest is a jolly good friendship ride. In the case of the opposite sex, when everything moves too fast, you don’t know when the intrigue becomes fondness turned to matter of your heart; and matters of the heart becomes too overpowering to deny, that’s when you realize you’ve been in a fast track swerve mobile. … More That “Orijin” Kinda Relationship
Happy Holidays Everyone!
Are you having fun yet? Well, that’s if you’re not the one spending all the time in the kitchen. I hope you don’t fall into the category of people who have no one to spend the holidays with or gotten the holiday blues already. If it’s your first holiday feeling lonely, let’s help explore ways to ensure this never happens again and who knows? Maybe you can still help the situation and make the most of it. So let’s find creative ways to be less lonely during the holiday. … More How To Be Less Lonely Over The Holidays
Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind. The pattern of mutual disrespect actually feeds on itself. The more one partner is rude and inconsiderate, the more likely it is the other spouse or partner will behave in similar ways. … More Respect: A key to successful relationship