I was following a story on social media a while back. It was a sorry case with this less than a day old married couple. When they started dating, it was a case of no intimacy until marriage – the woman insisted and the man willingly accepted. On the night of the wedding when all he wanted to do was unwrap his lovely lady, he discovered something rather unforgivable. His wife had another man’s entire body tattooed on hers’. Like literally his whole body and the penis was almost in her ‘vijayjay’. It was too much for him to even understand. She tried to excuse herself but eventually, it turned out that it was the image of her ex who at some point she thought she had to tattoo on her body just to prove her loyalty to him. Eventually, they didn’t end up together. The unveiling of the wedding night never took place and her husband was ready to give it all up. It wasn’t worth it, he concluded. It was too big a reminder for every time he would look at her. … More What’s your limit in marriage?
One way, another way. This way, that way. What do we really want?
While Rapunzel was locked away in the tower for God knows how long, she probably rehearsed and dreamed of her escape where some Prince Charming would come rescue her. She’ll maybe marry him and they will live happily ever after. But I saw Disney’s Tangled: Before Ever After with my children last night and it sort of reminded me of a thought I’d had earlier in the day. After being united with her family, Rapunzel couldn’t adjust to the life of space and freedom and all that glamour. She wanted something else, maybe something more outside of the kingdom walls.
Sometimes, there are certain things we can’t condone and we feel hurt or disappointed by them. But when something worse happens, we realize the former was better appreciated than condoned. Let me give an example. … More What do we really want?
The “start over” experience is relatively different for individuals. It depends on your previous job and the level of success you have attained. However, some protocols still remain the same. I am a trained engineer, and I worked at a paint manufacturing factory in 2013. Making the decision to leave my “okay” job and become a speaker and a blogger was a really difficult task for me. I took the leap eventually in search of purpose. But even for the medieval explorers, straying into the unknown wasn’t easy.
If you’re trying to reinvent your career, or resume at a previously held position, here’s a list of helpful tips that helped me. They can also lead you back on track to becoming a more fulfilled working person. Here is what I’d love to call the 10-R step to career reinvention. … More Helping You Get Back Your Speed – 10 “R”s To Career Reinvention
While everyone else seem to be socializing, lively and having fun, your precious introvert may just be hanging at the back of the room and watching everyone else unwind. They often appear disinterested or bored but if they’re among friends, odds are, they’re having a great time, just taking it all in and enjoying be present. Introverts are great people watchers and intent listeners. So that’s probably where those serious faces come from. So if something fun comes up, don’t automatically assume your introvert partner’s constant answer to every invite to socializing or having fun is a turn down. They can also be the life of the party. You just have to know and understand how they are. Saturday is for socializing. Sunday is for sleeping. Many introverts start to get cranky and unsteady when they have too much socializing to do for too many days in a row. They need rest. Their time alone has nothing to do loving you any less than you love them. … More Understanding & Loving Your Introvert Partner
60 days remaining until the end of the year!
Have you achieved 90% of your dreams for the year? If not, it’s not too late to change your strategies to achieve your desired goal for the year.
Make the rest of the days count.
Have a productive November. … More 305th Day
I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.
But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.
Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time. … More Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable
When women hang out together and get down to gisting about stuffs, often times, when they’re not talking about fashion, they’re busy talking about guys! They’re either talking about how their man gives them so much loving or how much heartache he’s causing them. When they go on and on about men, you’ll begin to wonder if there aren’t at least a few good men left. But gisting about each other’s partner is not the exclusive reserve of women alone. Men, too, talk about women when they hang out. And we also complain about some of the negatives of our women. Few days ago, myself and some of my colleagues were at the eatery opposite the office having lunch when our discussion veered to women and how increasingly difficult it’s become these days to maintain a woman in this recession period. … More Who wants an ungrateful wife?