She won’t settle for being carried on someone’s back, if she can crawl or use her teeth to get to the finish line. She sounds scary, but she’s just a regular girl who wants to actively participate in her journey to become an independent woman. This is somewhat a part two to my last article … More Dating a Fiercely Independent Woman
An independent woman is someone who knows what she wants, and never relies on anyone to finish the job for her. She is a formidable person who doesn’t allow the men in her life to take over her decisions. She’s tough, but that’s only because she knows it’s the only way she can make a … More A Window into the life of an Independent Woman
I put up happy faces and bright smiles
And they are all just pushing you even further away
It’s gotten more difficult too because of the crowd I now find myself
And I don’t know any more how to get to you
Because you are unable to feel me and all the things inside … More My Smiley Face
When does love turn to hate?
How is strength measured?
Who decides the manifestations of love and hate?
How do you measure strength and weakness?
Till they are all masked, explained with cause, how do you decipher?
When does the line begin and where does it end? … More Falling Lines
Immediately after the wedding, they left for Seychelles. It was a spectacular beauty to behold. They arrived late in the afternoon, with the sun sparkling over the ocean.
Humphrey took Pauline in his arms. ‘Are you hungry?’
She looked into his eyes and smiled, ‘No’.
‘Neither am I. Why don’t we get undressed?’ … More Finally, a man who understood her appetite
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
Someone said women change, hypothetically, every five years. Now the way a 25 year old lady will think and reason is different from what the priorities of a 30 year old woman are, which differs from what a 35 year old’s point of views and perspectives are about life and so on. If you find a married 25 year old lady and perhaps even working, she just feels blessed to be married and working and that sort of gives her satisfaction. She rolls with the routine by the day and everything is dandy. By the time she’s 30 years old and still has access to exposure, she’s probably thinking of more fulfilling things to do with her life now. … More How are you dealing with your wife’s evolution?
Philip and I love each other so much that he stood by me despite all his mother did or said to frustrate me to leave him. We visited different specialists and they all certified us medically alright. I have visited churches, held vigils and even fasted for days, drank various concoctions of varied colors and combinations all in the name of getting pregnant so that my mother-in-law can stop humiliating me yet I couldn’t get pregnant. … More Me, My husband & His mother
Depending on how we were raised and the circumstances surrounding our upbringing, we all turn out differently regardless of what society expects of us. This is why one wife can believe totally to depend on her husband for every need, every expense and hold on to his every word and another believes she is an active participant in the home, having equal say in every matter. While these different practices it might work well for an understanding and deserving husband, in a miss-matched case, it could be recipe for disaster. An example is the scenario where a husband wants his wife to be challenging, not all the time yielding. This causes him to disrespect his wife even more and be less attracted to her by the day. Yet she is instilling the same morals into her daughter which he finds even more irritable. While on the other hand, you’ll find husbands who want this scenario in their homes but their wives have so much voice they can’t be shut out. In the former situation, this is why a woman would strain herself and children in the name of protecting the authority and respect of her husband as opposed to enjoy being a helpful loyal helpmate. … More Is a wife entirely at her husband’s mercy?
I stand against domestic violence, especially towards helpless women. No matter the situation, no matter how aggravated the situation, no matter the ego, no matter the temptation, abusing your wife doesn’t make a man any better than he is. In truth, when you look back at the situation, it just makes you full of regret and shame, almost like you didn’t recognize the monster you became. It’s better to remove yourself from all appearances of domestic violence than fall prey and this goes for both men and women and in this case, women are more like to fall victim.
Stay safe! … More About yesterday