One way of coping with conflict is to sweep things under the carpet which basically means “To conceal a problem expediently, rather than remedy it thoroughly.” Sometimes the tendency to sweep things under the rug comes with the hope that what is concealed will remain undiscovered. Maybe we also do this because the truth is too painful to bear, or we fear the other person’s reaction and the consequences, or we hope things can be resolved without raising the issue.
The thought of being a wedding guest got me thinking about the trending craze with wedding guests now, especially with the outrageous attires they wear. Girls are not smiling o. At all! Whether as the bride or a wedding guest, everyone just wants to dress to impress and that’s putting it lightly. From the face-beat to total transformation, ladies look unrecognizable when it comes to attending weddings. Well, for those still single, perhaps it’s a trending gimmick to snatch off eligible bachelors. But the craze is fast getting out of hand. … More It’s wedding season! What are you wearing?
It’s so easy to take a look in the mirror and say to yourself, ‘the one who will marry me will be very lucky’. I’ve done it before. Well, I still think that the one who married me is lucky indeed but really, at first glance, I am very unassuming. I can cook, sew, mend, and care for babies. I’m patient, I’m kind and all those things a lot of people thought I was not when I was in Uni especially and afterward. They were probably seeing the surface side to me – the enigmatic beauty, and nothing more.
Men love that unattainable side to a woman. Well, that’s until they attain the woman and they look forward to the next unattainable “thing”. But what makes a man stay with a woman, perhaps, after that first mystery is unveiled? Beyond the beauty, carriage and packaging, should be a wife-material if you’re actually looking to be married sometime in the future. … More While you’re waiting for that Mr. Right,
It’s a new week but I want to imagine love is still in the way. With Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian’s wedding last week Thursday to Banky W and Adesuwa Etomi’s wedding on Sunday, I enjoyed every bit of it from Instagram like many others. Smiles. I guess it just goes to show, for those still expecting that wedding miracle that it isn’t over for the year. After all, it is the season of wedding bells. I hope yours’ will be one of those we’ll hear before 2017 is done.
But speaking of weddings, we tend to get carried away with that one day event most times as opposed to putting preparations and plans unto the forever after. Don’t get me wrong – I love weddings. I’ve loved weddings since I was my Dad’s date to a wedding ceremony sometime in 1996. I thought the bride looked like an angel and the happiest woman I ever saw and secretly I prayed the couple will remain happy forever. … More Don’t plan a wedding, Plan a marriage
Being informed ahead of a task may better prepare you of expectations. But really, sometimes, there’s no amount of information that takes away the beauty or challenges or pain that comes with an actual task like being pregnant. I like to use myself as an example in most scenarios. When I got married, I just really wanted to be pregnant and have a baby. I’ve loved the thought of it since as far back as primary school but nothing prepared me totally for what to know about pregnancy or what to expect during pregnancy. Yes, I read books like What to expect when you’re expecting and followed relevant sites like BabyCenter but I was still confused at certain times of what to do and how to handle myself during that period.
So for newlyweds or those expecting to be pregnant, here are some of the stuff you need to know about being pregnant to better inform and prepare you of the wonderful journey ahead. … More Things to know about pregnancy
The ‘Should I stay or should I go?’ ‘Should I love or should I leave?’ questions become too hard to answer. In the process, they end up holding on for far longer than they should. But braving something that is consistently hurting us and destroying our potential to be happy is not only unhealthy but self-destructive.
So how do you know if you’re holding on to a relationship that is toxic? How do you take that final call? How do you know when it’s time to let go? … More ‘Should I love or should I leave?’
I was following a story on social media a while back. It was a sorry case with this less than a day old married couple. When they started dating, it was a case of no intimacy until marriage – the woman insisted and the man willingly accepted. On the night of the wedding when all he wanted to do was unwrap his lovely lady, he discovered something rather unforgivable. His wife had another man’s entire body tattooed on hers’. Like literally his whole body and the penis was almost in her ‘vijayjay’. It was too much for him to even understand. She tried to excuse herself but eventually, it turned out that it was the image of her ex who at some point she thought she had to tattoo on her body just to prove her loyalty to him. Eventually, they didn’t end up together. The unveiling of the wedding night never took place and her husband was ready to give it all up. It wasn’t worth it, he concluded. It was too big a reminder for every time he would look at her. … More What’s your limit in marriage?
One way, another way. This way, that way. What do we really want?
While Rapunzel was locked away in the tower for God knows how long, she probably rehearsed and dreamed of her escape where some Prince Charming would come rescue her. She’ll maybe marry him and they will live happily ever after. But I saw Disney’s Tangled: Before Ever After with my children last night and it sort of reminded me of a thought I’d had earlier in the day. After being united with her family, Rapunzel couldn’t adjust to the life of space and freedom and all that glamour. She wanted something else, maybe something more outside of the kingdom walls.
Sometimes, there are certain things we can’t condone and we feel hurt or disappointed by them. But when something worse happens, we realize the former was better appreciated than condoned. Let me give an example. … More What do we really want?
The “start over” experience is relatively different for individuals. It depends on your previous job and the level of success you have attained. However, some protocols still remain the same. I am a trained engineer, and I worked at a paint manufacturing factory in 2013. Making the decision to leave my “okay” job and become a speaker and a blogger was a really difficult task for me. I took the leap eventually in search of purpose. But even for the medieval explorers, straying into the unknown wasn’t easy.
If you’re trying to reinvent your career, or resume at a previously held position, here’s a list of helpful tips that helped me. They can also lead you back on track to becoming a more fulfilled working person. Here is what I’d love to call the 10-R step to career reinvention. … More Helping You Get Back Your Speed – 10 “R”s To Career Reinvention
I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.
But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.
Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time. … More Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable