I put up happy faces and bright smiles
And they are all just pushing you even further away
It’s gotten more difficult too because of the crowd I now find myself
And I don’t know any more how to get to you
Because you are unable to feel me and all the things inside … More My Smiley Face
Imagine a baby who can’t speak but cries for every want – cold, hot, hungry, sleepy, wants to play, wants to be picked up, fighting sleep and the likes. No matter how much we want to calm a crying baby, it’s usually frustrating after trying many things and the baby is still wailing. That’s how unappreciative lack of expression can be. Hence a sudden reaction or responses thereafter will not be as appreciated as a constructive self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean that every thought, even anger, ought to be communication as they are but communication makes effort and situations better understood and appreciated. … More Lack of Expression kills Appreciation
The problem with expectations is that they’re just like an opinion. Everyone has one and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. This is the main cause of conflicts and issues in a relationship.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does right, conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to show love, for instance, will probably differ but does that make one of the ways wrong? Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. … More Managing Love’s Expectations
I was watching Laura Ikeji’s dance post on Instagram the other day and my thoughts were not coordinated at first. A woman loves to showcase her children and celebrate her love for them, regardless of the amazing love she had or has for her husband from the beginning of their relationship. So if the woman is celebrating herself and her children, who is celebrating the husband? … More Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?
So, we’ve had our moment of breaking the ice and having that first unbelievable conversation, what next?
In some cases, our views of people from afar are most times contrary to who they really are. You can’t tell a nervous person, for instance, from afar until you’re close enough to something or an activity that brings out that trait in them. In some cases, it’s better to appreciate people from afar and eulogize their seemingly perfect persona that makes you want to be close to them. I say this because once we get to know people, with all their good sides and bad sides, their flaws and weakness, we tend to let those traits form some sort of diminishing returns on our relationship with that person. A friend said to me once that it takes a sincere person to know you for who you are, imperfections and all, and still love you unconditionally. … More Can someone tell me how to retain relationships? I seem to have lost all of mine.
It’s another month. Happy new month. February was the month of love and it felt every inch like love was in the air.
Now for singles who had so much love in February that you want to take your relationship to another level, there are certain things to note before you say ‘I do”. I have various posts on things to note before marriage and the list in not exhaustive actually. As long as you feel uncomfortable about anything, please talk about it.
People often say love makes the world go round. I believe 100% that is true. However in marriage, while love is a good foundation for a union, it’s often not enough in most cases. You need a couple of elements to keep your relationship happily together forever even after the love might not be as strong anymore. One most important element is friendship. … More The role of friendship in marriage
We were two complete strangers
But soon I was your friend
I quickly learned the waters were full of dangers
And it became a trend
The pattern went on without an end
It breaks me down
If only I were able to turn my back
But you broke my heart and it won’t mend
Because you took a knife to it
And brought tears to these eyes
Out here in the black sea
You can’t hear my cries
I have to admit I’ll miss you
But I know it’s true
In this waters I will drown … More Dangerous Waters