Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom

Raising children would probably be the most tasking responsibility parents have. It’s easy to give instructions to guide them and maybe even spank them when they fail to follow your instructions. Being the example the children need isn’t always as easy as, “You are only allowed 30 minutes on your phone daily”, or “You are allowed on 1 hour with TV on school days”, or “You should be in bed by 8:30 pm on school days”. … More Encouraging Children: Boundaries in Freedom

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Where do I go from here?

Cross roads, decisions, choices – sometimes these are not options for us. Life may be full of choices but at the same time, when life choose to happen, that’s exactly what it does – it just happens and without consent from us. Resilience is the key to survival and our reactions say a lot about who we are. … More Where do I go from here?

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Childhood experiences & Impact on Marriage Relationships

Marriages may be made in heaven. However, so are thunder and lightning. Hiccups should not come as a surprise to any couple. Some issues are so minor and can be resolved within a little time. It’s the more prolonged issues that are a concern.

One does not have to be a psychologist to know that most of individual’s behavioral issues are somehow related to his/her past. As such couples are encouraged to first identify the issues that are the source of their unhappiness. They should then objectively analyze their respective background and see if any of these issues have arisen because of childhood problems. They might find that most of their issues are somehow related to their background. With mutual trust, help and support many of these issues can be resolved by the couples themselves. … More Childhood experiences & Impact on Marriage Relationships

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What a year!

As time goes by, life happens. We look forward and ahead to things yet to come. Perhaps if we knew what tomorrow holds, we might not look forward to it as much as we want tomorrow to be better. I thought life as a teenager was more eventful than the early twenties which was filled with more appreciation for life and family than I can remember. I remember the New Year eves spent watching fire works with the entire family and the house full of laughter and giggles. But for whatever challenges those years brought, nothing beats 2017. … More What a year!

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Raising kids in a perverse generation

A famous Nigeria actress said, “The best gift you can give your child is the Word of God”. God did indeed give you these children for this time. You need to help them discover the secret in the Word of God that will take them to wonderful places, even beyond this world. Daily instruction in God’s Word is key in raising children in this age. The Word is very clear on men and women, marriage, sexual perversion, and right and wrong. There are so many teachings and personal opinions on the internet which can, quite frankly, get your mind twisted if you’re not even grounded in a Truth. If for the only reason that the Bible is a book of morals and ideals, then there is no harm in obeying to the letter, without additions or subtractions. It’s very clear on the hardening of hearts to the truth, and on fools being led astray. Read it with and to your children daily. Memorize passages. Explain how they relate to our practical times. … More Raising kids in a perverse generation

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Raising Children: Differentiating between child labour, abuse and what’s normal/healthy.

Speaking of responsibilities – I was driving through a community recently and saw these group of public school pupils outside the school premise, cutting the overgrown grasses with cutlasses and hoes. At first, I thought – wow, who let’s their child leave home and come be a gardener at school? Can’t the school afford aboki to do the job? Is it safe for them to be outside when they should be catching up on the new term’s curriculum? Is it safe, basically? … More Raising Children: Differentiating between child labour, abuse and what’s normal/healthy.

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Fathers & Daughters

Relationships between fathers and daughters can truly be one of a kind, especially depending on the presence of a functional father figure in the upbringing of the daughter. Mothers are wired to give and show love to their children but with that comes minimal discipline which tends to put children on the flip side of independence and confidence. For the purpose of this article, I’ll attempt to do justice to the growing search of a father’s role in a father-daughter relationship. … More Fathers & Daughters

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Protect me passionately

Ada is a sixteen year old enthusiast who wanted to be a soloist with one of the big Nigerian record labels. She often gathered the other children together and make everyone join in on her singing competitions, knowing full well that none of the other children had the kind of sensational talents that she had. Onome, though a year younger than Ada, had her unique talent too which often confused even her parents. Onome is a good actress. She often dramatized her way out of any unwanted situation she found herself and her parents couldn’t tell it was all an act for years.

A conman had approached them individually, having watched them from afar for months. Different in talent they may be but they both had the same trait which is common to his other victims – desperate for fame. … More Protect me passionately

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For the Girl Child, Dear Jesus …

As Jesus Christ makes his triumphant entry into Jerusalem today, I bring my prayer request for the little girls.

Dear Jesus,

I pray for the little girl child that she would hear and understand how God values and loves her. I pray that she would be accepted and treasured within her culture as someone who has been created in God’s image. I ask for her protection and loving care; that cultures will be transformed in view of the girl child through the knowledge of God’s word. Give her a sense of belonging, O Lord, that she would feel safe and accepted within the family and community. … More For the Girl Child, Dear Jesus …

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Gender Inequality

What makes a father think it’s okay for a 5 year old son to have a glass of red wine but not acceptable for his grown wife to have a sip of it? What makes a man think it’s okay for him to live a full life and relegate a woman to the kitchen or be a partial participant in the “other room”? What makes a man think at all that it’s a man’s world? It’s all part of gender inequality treatment.

Psychology tells us that there are no differences between male and female intelligence. However, while men are significantly more likely to take risks than women, this trait enables them to get ahead more quickly than the average woman. Perhaps we owe the intuition in the male gender to segregate from the opposite sex to their more likelihood to be aggressive, a trait influenced by androgen exposure. … More Gender Inequality

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