A man marries the girl of his dreams and then begins to wonder all his life what happened to that girl he knew before she became his bride and all other marriage struggles and circumstances happened to her. He fails to appreciate the evolution which has taken place just by being married to him too and then he gradually begins to get disappointed in his marriage. On the other hand, a woman marries a man who doesn’t quite fit the image of the Prince Charming she had dreamed of, and then worries all her married life why he is still the same imperfect person he was in their courting days. … More Man’s expectation in his woman
We hold on to so many things that cause a great deal of stress and frustration in our relationships, and instead of letting them all go and allowing our relationships to flourish and blossom, we cling on to them. But if you want to live the kind of relationship you’ve always fantasized, you need to give up on all those things that no longer serve you, and embrace change. … More Making your marriage work
The grass really isn’t always greener on the other side. If it appears so, you should consider how really green it would be if you were the one tendering it. There’s no need wondering that far. Just take a look at your side of the grass and you’ll find your answer. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If it were so, it won’t still be as attractive as it is seemingly tempting. … More Supporting your Husband to be the Best he can be
Someone said women change, hypothetically, every five years. Now the way a 25 year old lady will think and reason is different from what the priorities of a 30 year old woman are, which differs from what a 35 year old’s point of views and perspectives are about life and so on. If you find a married 25 year old lady and perhaps even working, she just feels blessed to be married and working and that sort of gives her satisfaction. She rolls with the routine by the day and everything is dandy. By the time she’s 30 years old and still has access to exposure, she’s probably thinking of more fulfilling things to do with her life now. … More How are you dealing with your wife’s evolution?
One way of coping with conflict is to sweep things under the carpet which basically means “To conceal a problem expediently, rather than remedy it thoroughly.” Sometimes the tendency to sweep things under the rug comes with the hope that what is concealed will remain undiscovered. Maybe we also do this because the truth is too painful to bear, or we fear the other person’s reaction and the consequences, or we hope things can be resolved without raising the issue.
The problem with expectations is that they’re just like an opinion. Everyone has one and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. This is the main cause of conflicts and issues in a relationship.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does right, conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to show love, for instance, will probably differ but does that make one of the ways wrong? Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. … More Managing Love’s Expectations
I was watching Laura Ikeji’s dance post on Instagram the other day and my thoughts were not coordinated at first. A woman loves to showcase her children and celebrate her love for them, regardless of the amazing love she had or has for her husband from the beginning of their relationship. So if the woman is celebrating herself and her children, who is celebrating the husband? … More Women have been told they are their man’s better half. But what does that really mean?
It’s so easy to take a look in the mirror and say to yourself, ‘the one who will marry me will be very lucky’. I’ve done it before. Well, I still think that the one who married me is lucky indeed but really, at first glance, I am very unassuming. I can cook, sew, mend, and care for babies. I’m patient, I’m kind and all those things a lot of people thought I was not when I was in Uni especially and afterward. They were probably seeing the surface side to me – the enigmatic beauty, and nothing more.
Men love that unattainable side to a woman. Well, that’s until they attain the woman and they look forward to the next unattainable “thing”. But what makes a man stay with a woman, perhaps, after that first mystery is unveiled? Beyond the beauty, carriage and packaging, should be a wife-material if you’re actually looking to be married sometime in the future. … More While you’re waiting for that Mr. Right,
It’s a new week but I want to imagine love is still in the way. With Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian’s wedding last week Thursday to Banky W and Adesuwa Etomi’s wedding on Sunday, I enjoyed every bit of it from Instagram like many others. Smiles. I guess it just goes to show, for those still expecting that wedding miracle that it isn’t over for the year. After all, it is the season of wedding bells. I hope yours’ will be one of those we’ll hear before 2017 is done.
But speaking of weddings, we tend to get carried away with that one day event most times as opposed to putting preparations and plans unto the forever after. Don’t get me wrong – I love weddings. I’ve loved weddings since I was my Dad’s date to a wedding ceremony sometime in 1996. I thought the bride looked like an angel and the happiest woman I ever saw and secretly I prayed the couple will remain happy forever. … More Don’t plan a wedding, Plan a marriage
The ‘Should I stay or should I go?’ ‘Should I love or should I leave?’ questions become too hard to answer. In the process, they end up holding on for far longer than they should. But braving something that is consistently hurting us and destroying our potential to be happy is not only unhealthy but self-destructive.
So how do you know if you’re holding on to a relationship that is toxic? How do you take that final call? How do you know when it’s time to let go? … More ‘Should I love or should I leave?’