News broke out in recent times that a young lady attempted suicide after she discovered that her fiancé whom she had dated for over three years had ditched her and was planning to marry another woman in a couple of weeks. The troubled lady had believed the guy would certainly marry her after several years of courtship, but it turned out she was wrong.
“The average length of an engagement is 14 months but is it OK to be engaged much longer than that?” … More How long is ideal to “I do”?
As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, it is important to know that love is not just a one day demonstration. Valentine’s Day is a day to show that Special One that you really appreciate them in your life on a day when the world celebrates love. Many people want to be loved but have no one. Many want to be held but have no one. Many people just need someone to smile back at them. So for you who have love, celebrate it and while we’re at it, let’s take some time to learn from the world’s happiest couples. … More 8 Lessons in love from the World’s Happiest Couples
For to have is to hold, for richer or poorer,
In sickness or health, in good or bad times till death only
Yet he became unforgiving only because she became unrelenting
A little patience and smile
Yet became unbearable till realizations were made clear … More Her King & Her
Have you ever wondered how sweet the mystery is that a fountain never runs dry?
Never gets old, wanting more of that jetting beauty,
The gush of waters, never tired, never diminished, unreserved.
If love were a fountain, gushing unreserved desire, how willing are you to accept it?
Seeing, knowing, assured, yet it gets old and we’ve place a tag on it.
The essence is lost only because true love is at no financial implication
Yet we let it slide so easily because it came so easily. … More Fountain of Love
Some stories I’ve heard this week has shocked me to my very bone and the truth is, no one is really addressing these issues head on – practically. The African society makes it impossible to speak out as a woman and expect to get helpful responses to deal with these issues with useful advice. The Church makes it even worse for these things to be mentioned amongst us. But have we stopped to realize that in reality, most of us are not as spiritual as we want the society to believe we are? And men take advantage of this, knowing the society can only encourage or lead the woman on to keep hoping, be prayerful and patient. Are we actually looking at the situation from the perspective that we are only encouraging the men to be lazier and less responsible for their actions? Who is going to address the men to get off their butts and be real men? … More Who will address the ill that has found its’ way into the family?
Imagine a baby who can’t speak but cries for every want – cold, hot, hungry, sleepy, wants to play, wants to be picked up, fighting sleep and the likes. No matter how much we want to calm a crying baby, it’s usually frustrating after trying many things and the baby is still wailing. That’s how unappreciative lack of expression can be. Hence a sudden reaction or responses thereafter will not be as appreciated as a constructive self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean that every thought, even anger, ought to be communication as they are but communication makes effort and situations better understood and appreciated. … More Lack of Expression kills Appreciation
Sustaining respect during the course of a relationship takes effort. We are all human, and if someone begins to treat us negatively, inconsiderately, and disrespectfully, we often tend to respond in kind. The pattern of mutual disrespect actually feeds on itself. The more one partner is rude and inconsiderate, the more likely it is the other spouse or partner will behave in similar ways. … More Respect: A key to successful relationship
If loving is gifting
I’m glad I got the best gift
It’s not for what you are or who are you
I know plenty of people with eyes closed
They don’t see you like I do
But darling, it’s what you are and who you are to me. … More I see you!
A man marries the girl of his dreams and then begins to wonder all his life what happened to that girl he knew before she became his bride and all other marriage struggles and circumstances happened to her. He fails to appreciate the evolution which has taken place just by being married to him too and then he gradually begins to get disappointed in his marriage. On the other hand, a woman marries a man who doesn’t quite fit the image of the Prince Charming she had dreamed of, and then worries all her married life why he is still the same imperfect person he was in their courting days. … More Man’s expectation in his woman
Men are wired one way and women another
For to love, for a man, is to be vulnerable
And wisdom, maturity and appreciation for women;
Conscious that guards and limits still apply.
As long as life and love in themselves are privileges
Nothing is taken for granted. … More My Heart Won’t Let Go