I haven’t had a Saturday like the last Saturday I had. In my PJs, after breakfast, having a glass of freshly squeezed watermelon juice, tuned on to the much anticipated royal wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.
I must have missed the part where the elegant, stylish, sophisticated guests arrived at St George’s Chapel, where Prince Harry and Meghan Markle tied the knot. The likes of George Clooney and his gorgeous wife, Idris Elba and his fiancé, Sir Elton John, David Beckham and his graceful wife, Oprah, Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian, and the Indian beauty Priyanka Chopra blew me away when I saw the pictures all over the internet afterwards. I loved the fact that they were all A-listers, wealthy and influential but they were nothing like the extravagant Naija owambe guests.
I will be writing in subsequent articles some of the things that gave me goose bumps during the church ceremony but for the purpose of this article, I want to mention one of the captivating moments that stayed with me. The moment the priest officially tied the “knot” with Prince Harry and Meghan Markel.
I remember when I got married, the Pastor asked, ‘who gives this woman to be married to this man?’ My father answered. My father handed me over to the Pastor and Pastor handed me to my husband. That act breaks down the meaning of God being the third man in a marriage because your parents give you to God/the Church and the Church gives you to your partner. Any conflict that may arise or issues that are seemingly unclear should be taken to God first before any other person, if at all. Apt as the sermon at the royal wedding, love makes us overlook each other’s flaws and focus on each other, without second thoughts. This is the true essence that keeps a fairytale wedding. It’s not about the glitz and glam. It is how we maintain the marriage that says the better of how far we go.
One of many captivating moments was the infusion of the Afro pop world into the service. From the sermon to the choir rendition – lovely is an understatement. Bishop Curry delivered a meaningful and inspiring sermon in which he discussed the power of love. “Imagine if love is the way… When love is the way, we will let justice roll down in… We’d actually treat each other like we are actually family.” And family is what the world needs. It is how the home needs to perceive itself, not pulled apart by differences in culture, beliefs, age, skin color and other biases.
If husband and wife were to go back to basics and see God as the third man in their union, certainly a lot of homes and marriages would be heaven on earth despite the fire we go through now and again. After all, the union of marriage is between man(woman) and God.