How long is ideal to “I do”?

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“The average length of an engagement is 14 months but is it OK to be engaged much longer than that?”

Did that scare you?

According to An American survey, the average length of an engagement is 14 months but that’s just an average. Some engagements are as short as a month and some can last for years and years.

A Nigerian woman claims that “an engagement for more than a year is like life in prison in my own opinion. Don’t keep a relationship for too long, it strains the relationship”. Even then, it can be argued that an engagement that lasts two years or more is far better than a wedding ring that would only last two months or even less.

News broke out in recent times that a young lady attempted suicide after she discovered that her fiancé whom she had dated for over three years had ditched her and was planning to marry  another woman in a couple of weeks. The troubled lady had believed the guy would certainly marry her after several years of courtship, but it turned out she was wrong.

I think there are no wrong or right lengths of time to be engaged. Everyone’s relationship is different, and you and your partner have to decide what’s best for you. Here are a few things to consider when it comes to your time frame.

There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement

Long engagements are helpful when individuals are at significantly different places in their lives. So if you or your partner are still finishing school or living abroad at the moment, it might be better to start to think about the wedding once you’ve completed those chapters in your lives. Then your marriage can signify the start of a brand new one. A prolonged engagement also gets couples an opportunity to engage in premarital education, so that they can learn the skills that help improve marriage.

Why it may be better to get married sooner rather than later

A shorter engagement may be the better choice for you if you’re eager to make big life decisions, like having children or moving in together and want to make them after you’re officially married. One of the problems with an extended engagement is the level of excitation begins to diminish over time, not only with the person who is engaged to get married, but with the friends and families as well.

But what do you think?

4 thoughts on “How long is ideal to “I do”?

  1. In my first marriage we were together for 6 years before marrying and I knew inside I should have left long before then. After two weeks of knowing my current husband I knew he was the one. Sounds crazy but we were married a year to the day we met and I have never had a single second thought. Love is a mystery.

    1. I totally agree with you. It’s neither here nor there. Length can be a deception of the mind. It still boils down to commitment to keep each other happy

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