You need to get to know yourself!
We spend so much time putting on facades for others. We pretend to be people we’re not. And when we try too hard to fit in, we lose ourselves often without realizing it. We all change with time, but we don’t always grow with time. Sometimes we take a couple of steps backward. We regress and turn into our younger, more immature selves. It happens but keeping these moments brief is also advised. Once you take some time to be alone and explore who you are, keeping in mind the person you want to be, you’ll get to know yourself again. You’ll come to realize what’s most important to you. You’ll also learn what’s trivial and disposable in your life.
Old habits often refuse to die. Being alone is the only way to get enough breathing room to do what needs to be done. You need to be okay with being alone. You have to accept that you are enough. It’s easier said than done, I know. No one wants feel alone. But take a survey of people in relationships and you’ll be amazed how many still feel alone despite being with someone.
You should be happy when you’re by yourself. Your happiness, focus and hunger for life can’t depend on somebody else, even though there are circumstances that may make us happier or sadder. Most of us gain happiness from having a partner. But you can’t allow someone’s absence to define your life.
You can’t look at a life with someone else as better than your life now. Because if that life is better, then the one you’re living now must so bad. But is it, really? Take another survey with married people and you’ll be amazed how many of them want your life.
Too many people use relationships like bandages but at the end of the day, the blood always seeps through. We’re all a bit bruised, a bit scarred and jaded. Some days are certainly going to be worse than others but really, your happiness is truly a choice. And a relationship isn’t going to “fix” you.
Your outlook of life and your life is really in your hands to navigate. If change is what you desire, then be the change you desire first. You’ll be happy with yourself and how you can control your life. And you’ll have something that too many of us lose – hope.
Getting into a relationship before you’re emotionally and mentally prepared reduces the chances it will work out. The longer you’re in a loving relationship with yourself, confident in your own space and skin; the longer you pause to understand yourself and to create your life with your mind’s paintbrush, the more likely an extrinsic relationship can be appreciated and your next will be the last one you’ll ever need.