The grass really isn’t always greener on the other side. If it appears so, you should consider how really green it would be if you were the one tendering it. There’s no need wondering that far. Just take a look at your side of the grass and you’ll find your answer. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. If it were so, it won’t still be as attractive as it is seemingly tempting.
I’m a believer of support, hard work, diligence and dedication. Because real women are attracted to potential, it isn’t farfetched that most women should support these things if they identify them in their husbands. Otherwise, of what benefit would it be to women if they would not attempt to identify and build the best out of their husbands?
Relationship isn’t about intimacy but about the interpretation of who we are to the other person’s understanding and how we are able to connect with each other in a way that fosters synergy between people. It is the person that has the capability to connect in a way that influences the other person that holds true relationship with that person. Otherwise, intimacy might as well be an ‘in the moment’ kind of thing and forgotten right after, or worse still regretted right after. But relationships aren’t easily broken if they are founded on relativeness and compatibility.
“The best possible thing you can get out of a relationship is that you’re with someone who encourages you to be the best version of yourself every day.” ~Nishan Panwar
A supportive wife isn’t someone who will hang on your every word, do whatever you want, and follow you to the ends of the earth. That clinginess isn’t the “true love” that you’re searching for. A supportive wife is one who supports, challenges and stand beside her husband when he really needs someone to be there, and yet gives her husband the space he needs to roam free and grow as a person.
A supportive person might not be around all the time, but for the things that really matter, or for when you are sick or in the dark, they’ll be there at your side, without you even needing to ask. They might seem like the busiest person in the world or the least affectionate at times, but when it matters, they’ll drop everything for you. Most of all, they will see you, the real you that other people can’t see. They’ll see you in all your beauty and grace, as well as your darkness and faults. They will see you for the person you are now and the amazing person they know you are truly capable of becoming, even if you can’t quite see this yourself yet and they will love you. Unconditionally.
So, wives, stop expecting things from your partners that they don’t intuitively know how to give you. You will learn and grow together, so long as you continue to communicate assertively and don’t put unreasonable demands on each other.
The race isn’t to the swift but by God’s favor and blessings. What better way to invoke grace and blessings than living in agreement, supporting and encouraging one another in marriage?