I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.
But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.
Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time.
Let’s explore a few of those reasons why being single is becoming more desirable.
1) Marriage is still that same old patriarchal institution
Marriage is not simply an expression of love between two people. It is a legal and social institution which exists to benefit men and control women. Truth or fallacy?
2) Marriage is crippling
While some want to acquire and achieve before marriage (that is in the class of men), others believe in marrying humble, starting life really (and that’s in the class of women). For either of the category we belong to, any unmet expectations becomes as a result of “marriage”. Remember that what you allow is totally up to you.
3) Marriage is totally isolating
A lot of people, both men and women, claim they never felt lonelier than when they were married. It isn’t about seeing the other person everyday but there’s the belief that things change when you get married. Again, what you allow is totally up to you, except you see a different scenario in the future, then it’s worth keeping alive.
4) The sex stops being good
Both men and women have tendencies to grow tired of the same thing every day or every other day. This is where the need to reinvent comes in, otherwise, it’s not the sex that’s going to stop being good, it’s the marriage that will eventually be affected.
5) When you’re not married, you can leave at any time
If only marriage was a temporary contract, perhaps there might be a more appealing approach to it. But there are certain beauties you don’t get to enjoy until you have passed the test. That’s the only time you get to win the trophy.
6) Weddings are overrated
Some people get married in anticipated of beautiful things – the wedding night, the happily ever after. But we’re all too quick to see the flip side of the fairy tale.
Some people say you don’t need another person to make you happy because as you are responsible for your own happiness, but even though your happiness does not completely depend on you having a life partner, your world does become a much happier place to live in with the presence of a loved one.