Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable

I believe people want to find love, they want to be adored, cared for, and have someone they can rely on, not necessarily because they need someone. I believe that men will always be men and women will be women, wired for desires and wants in different measures, neither is better nor worse. They are just different.

But it would appear that in this new era, more women believe they can do better and be better than men. But by doing this over and over, women are squashing the strength of men and sending the wrong signal that they do not need anyone with the “I can do it myself” attitude. A man knows when a women can do it herself but it gives a feeling of trust and reliability when you let a man be the man. A successful relationship is a team, and teams only win if they work together towards a common goal. In this case, a happy life.

Marriages will continue to diverge by education and exposure. There is an entire wave of social evolution that is flowing over us, and unfortunately it’s washing away what we have always referred to as ‘happy relationships’ which is now giving the singles confidence to remain so. It is a fallacy that remaining single is anyone’s desire. Even the worst of introverts still appreciate the presence of that one special person – maybe not all the time. … More Reasons why being Single is becoming more desirable

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Who wants an ungrateful wife?

When women hang out together and get down to gisting about stuffs, often times, when they’re not talking about fashion, they’re busy talking about guys! They’re either talking about how their man gives them so much loving or how much heartache he’s causing them. When they go on and on about men, you’ll begin to wonder if there aren’t at least a few good men left. But gisting about each other’s partner is not the exclusive reserve of women alone. Men, too, talk about women when they hang out. And we also complain about some of the negatives of our women. Few days ago, myself and some of my colleagues were at the eatery opposite the office having lunch when our discussion veered to women and how increasingly difficult it’s become these days to maintain a woman in this recession period.     … More Who wants an ungrateful wife?

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Rebuilding your life after abuse

If you have been abused, it is very likely that you will feel the effects of that abuse in all your future relationships.  It could be with your spouse, your friends, your family, and your children. Imagine what it would be like if you could be free from the memories of that abuse – if you could see the world the same as someone who had a normal childhood. Perhaps, there’s still at a chance at a normal life.

Many women who have lived with an abuser find the new “freedom” inhibiting. Such a restrictive view comes from feelings of being lost, out of control, and confused. … More Rebuilding your life after abuse

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How can a man love another man’s victim?

In front of her mirror, she takes off her huge sun-glasses which she’s used to cover the purple bruise under her right eye. She sighed. She reaches for her cleansing wipes and braces herself as she cleans off the concealer cosmetic she’d used to cover up the red bruise on her arm and legs. She gets into the shower and before she could feel sorry for herself, she’s back in the kitchen making food for her husband who delights in snapping and hitting her at will. He was just generally unappreciative of her. His aim was to bring her permanently under his submission regardless of the fact that he married her a socialite.

She will not leave him because everyone thinks they look good together. She will not leave him because she wants to be understanding and make excuses for him. She will not leave him because he takes care of his responsibilities toward her. For her, it would be futile to leave. Otherwise – “Leave to where?” … More How can a man love another man’s victim?

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Confidence Personified

People often get carried away with love, beauty, power, fame or wealth. These things can also make us overconfident in some ways that we are prone to misbehave when we have one or all of them. Confidence can be a useful quality for leaders to demonstrate when they wish to gain stature, credibility and influence. However, finding the balance between leveraging the benefits of acting confidently and avoiding the dangers of overconfidence is crucial. Let’s quickly run by a few ideas on how to keep grounded irrespective of our confidence, regardless of the source of it. … More Confidence Personified

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Helplessly

You distract me
But I’m distracted without you.
I don’t know how to focus
Baby, teach me how to.
‘Cause I’m standing still again
But if you love me
Just like the way that I love you
I wouldn’t mind a little comforting from you.
Why do I let you in my head?
I gotta go sometimes,
But you’re always on my mind. … More Helplessly

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The road to heaven

I will lift up my eyes to the hills From whence comes my help? My help comes from the Lord The Marker of the heavens and the earth. He will guide me jealously in the path of righteousness He will not allow my foot to be moved He who keeps me does not slumber. The Lord He is my … More The road to heaven

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RelationShips sink when there are too many passengers

Some relationships are better sustained by friendship, others need romance. Both have love in common because you can’t be friends with someone you hate or have a romantic affair with someone you hate either. But when we love, most man and woman relationship end up in romantic affairs which may be because we feel the need to keep the other person in our lives. We fail to realize that relationships that are best at friendship will fail as a romantic one and the ones that are supposed to be romantic will fail as friendship. We need to understand what we are and the place we hold in the other person’s life. … More RelationShips sink when there are too many passengers

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Just the way I am

I was proud of my heart

Until I realized it was too weak for love

I’m no warrior for love,

Even though I wish I could be as explicit as the feeling inside

It still wouldn’t be enough

Because such is my fate.

You think I talk a lot of gibberish

But perhaps if you made us as uncomplicated

You would find beauty in my words here in my heart

I said there was no room for love here

Yet you were willing to make me promises

You first loved

But I’m the one who became needy

My head’s under water

I’m struggling to be alright

I want to think of you only half as much as you think of me

But I have not become a slave to my feeling for you

I am struggling to be alright

I do not want you to see me shatter

But in truth,

This is what I have become

But I would rather live a life of unrequited love

Than not know the feeling at all

I wouldn’t change a thing

 Because I love me

Just the way that I am … More Just the way I am

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