If you’ve ever gone through a bad breakup, you know change is sometimes the best cure. Since packing your bags and running away isn’t always practical, a quick fix will usually do the trick. And what a better way to get away from yourself than a different you. LOL. I know. You can’t just be a different you over night after a breakup but getting a haircut can make you feel all better again!
I might not be a serial victim of breakups but I find that anytime I need to wear a different personality, I go for a change of hairdo. So maybe typically for blacks, we don’t have the luxury of cutting out hair at will for fear of slow growth but trust me, there’s a younger, better and more refreshing feeling it gives on the inside. I have cut while it was at its prime once and it felt so good.
Well, a few lifestyle magazines also believe women chopping their hair after a breakup gives a breath of fresh air. I remember when I wanted to take a haircut earlier this year, it was deliberate for the purpose of getting over certain unpleasant emotions. Cutting your hair is a great way to let go of the past and a great way to feel light and refreshed. But really, how fundamental is it to make a drastic change to your appearance when you’re in such a fragile state?
Oh well, whether or not it’s a safe practice after a breakup, it definitely has its advantages.
It’s a visual marker of change.
Cutting your hair is a visual way to show you are in transition and that something has changed in your life that goes beyond your appearance. It’s a way to announce that you are transitioning to a new chapter in your life. New hair, new chapter, new energy, new you.
It’s a symbol of shedding the past.
Quite literally, when you go into the hair salon for a dramatic cut, you are cutting off dead ends and extra weight, shedding your past and the things that previously weighed you down. You are putting things behind you and lifting weight from your shoulders. You leave the salon feeling lighter, both physically and mentally.
It makes you feel better, both externally and internally.
You may not want to admit it, but when you look your best on the outside, you feel great on the inside. Appearances often translate into feelings. Getting a nice cut can male you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. It can bring out your eyes, your smile and your freckles, every beautiful detail of your face. And after getting dumped and believing no one is ever going to find you desirable, it’s reassuring to feel truly beautiful.
It relieves you immediately.
As opposed to other drastic changes like losing weight, moving into a new place and rebounding with a new guy, a haircut is straight to the point. The results are visible in an instant. There’s no delayed gratification, and it’s satisfying to feel the weight, both physical and mental, being lifted off immediately.
It help to reclaim yourself.
Some of us cut our hair simply because it is our own, no matter how trivial you think it is to care about appearance. But it is something that belongs to us, and only us, especially if we gave every other physical part of ourselves to some else.
If you’ve just been through a hurtful breakup and are thinking of ways to get over your emotions, you might want to give this a try. There’s almost nothing to lose but dead ends anyway. And when you get the balls to do it, please share the experience. Better yet, send your amazing photos to my email. Let’s celebrate together!