After all that’s said and done, the things that matter

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Romantic relationships, like any other relationship, can be very messy. Yet most relationships stand the test of time because of its complexity. Unfortunately, we tire easily of the good old safe routines. Regrettably too, a lot of couples call it quits despite having genuine love for each other just because of one minor and avoidable ‘thing’ that shouldn’t even be an issue in the first place. Sometimes it can be the little things that matter in a relationship that make or break it.

The little things really help to make the connection and bond stronger. Little gestures, smiles, and “just because” moments can really make a memorable statements. After all that is said and done, these little things that matter in a relationship can really help you see how much you were made for each other, and how much your significant other appreciates what you have together if only you could have paid a little extra attention. So if you want to keep appreciating what matters in your relationship,

Say it! “I love you”

If you really do feel it, say it.  Take your significant other by the hands, look them deep into their eyes, and say it.  Three little words that can light up both your days and reassure him or her much they are loved.

Watch a romantic movie together

Here are some of my old time favorites – Moulin Rouge, Phenomenon and Endless love

Be silly together

Letting your inhibitions go and being uncomplicated is something that can easily be forgotten when you’re an adult and especially when you’re a couple.  Being silly together shows that you are comfortable with each other, that you have embraced one another and could be a great reminder why you fell in love in the first place.  A couple who can laugh and play together are often happy.

Say thank you 

How hard can it be to say thank you? But we have taken our significant other for granted to the point where we feel they are obliged to do whatever they do for us. Appreciate him or her for the things that really matter.  When they hold your hand through a crisis, when they lift you up when you fall, when they stay by your side when you’re ill. In those situations gratitude is rarely expressed with words, but can go a long way to make the other person feel special and appreciated.


Compliments are wonderful. It’s an instant lift when someone acknowledges you in a positive light, especially when it’s coming from someone you love.  It shows that you’re noticed, appreciated and admired.  Complimenting your partner on their looks, their personality, their positive spirit or whatever else you admire or love about them is something you can’t do too much.  It’s a small gesture that can make a huge, positive impact on your relationship.

Do what the other enjoy

Listen and take interest in what your partner likes to do, even if it’s not your personal favorite.  In turn, when you want to do an activity that you enjoy, they’ll be open and willing to do it with you as well.  Going outside of your comfort zone speaks volumes to your partner.  It’s a small gesture that shows you are about their happiness and comfort.

A little present goes a long way

It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, in fact, it can be the simple act of getting them their favorite bread on the way home or delivering that special kind of salad they like to their office just because you know they will appreciate it. It’s not the present but the gesture and the thought that went into it that will be appreciated more so than the actual ‘thing’ bought.


Cuddling is the best way to show that you love someone. Cuddling has this wonderful ability to soothe away the pain and calm you down.  It works both ways. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, but you will shake off some of that stress and tension as well. And when it’s cold, you could keep each other warm.

While some degree of complexity in a relationship is healthy for sustenance, we ought to be mindful to protect, keep and invest in the things we want to matter in the long run. People – relationships are one of the things that will stand by you and the test of time, especially in your old age. Cherish one another, appreciate one another, respect one another – after all, really the best things in life isn’t about the dough.

One thought on “After all that’s said and done, the things that matter

  1. Like you said in one of your articles, “who feelings epp?” But more seriously, people are not patient anymore to dig deep into emotions and relationships. It’s just money and benefits that count.

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