Gone are the days when fathers take a back sit in raising the children. The culture now embraces fathers as equal partners in care giving. From day one, fathers are willing to be hands-on, changing diapers, giving baths, making the Baby formula, feeding the Baby, putting the Baby to sleep and calming their cries. That presence and effort is the beginning of a very important relationship.
Relationships between fathers and daughters can truly be one of a kind, especially depending on the presence of a functional father figure in the upbringing of the daughter. Mothers are wired to give and show love to their children but with that comes minimal discipline which tends to put children on the flip side of independence and confidence. For the purpose of this article, I’ll attempt to do justice to the growing search of a father’s role in a father-daughter relationship.
Having a strong male influence is important in a young boy’s life but it is equally important for daughters to have one as well. A positive father-daughter relationship can have a huge impact on a young girl’s life and even determine whether or not she develops into a strong, confident woman. A father’s influence in his daughter’s life shapes her self-esteem, self-image, confidence, opinion and expectations of men. One of the great traits worth emulating for the confident woman of today is the life of integrity, honesty, avoiding hypocrisy and admitting shortcomings that good fathers tend to possess so that daughters have a realistic and positive example of how to deal with the world. Verbal encouragement, being consistently present in a daughter’s life, being alert and sensitive to her feelings, taking time to listen to her thoughts and taking an active interest in her hobbies influences a daughter’s self-image and improves her outlook to life. Daughters who experience this interactive and encouraging relationship with their fathers tend to hold more intelligent conversations with their peers or colleagues as opposed to being more inclined to subjective tête-à-têtes.
The type of men that women date and have long-term relationships with are also related to the kind of relationship a girl has with her father, either she is running towards her father’s same personality or running away from a terrible one’s experience. Obviously, the hope is that the father figure in a girl’s life will aim to skew her opinions of men in a positive way. But the drive for fathers is to be the kind of man you want your daughter to marry. Fathers are the model for manhood their daughters are likely to look for when she starts to date.
If you are a father and have the awesome responsibility of raising a daughter, be the positive masculine influence in her life that she needs you to be. Love, guide, protect, and be there for her. Be the kind of man you hope she will marry one day. Your relationship with her has far-reaching effects. Help her become the remarkable woman she was designed to be!