When you married, you also became part of another family with its own set of expectations. There is need to recognize and respect those expectations within limits. However, none of those limits include:
Submerge all your own feelings, desires, preferences, and needs in the service of “doing things their way.”
Permit them to disrespect, control, or manipulate you for their own selfish ends.
It doesn’t entail “obeying” all their “parental” requests or requirements which, in some instances with some in-laws, may get out of control once entertained out of “respect”. … More In-laws: Is there a difference between mine and yours?