Logic & Emotion in a relationship

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When I wondered how relationships are sustained, a little bird said to me “logic and emotions are responsible for sustaining healthy long lasting relationships”. You have to be in control when using either of the two. However, most people, especially women, find it hard to distinguish the two elements in decision making. When a pleasant situation presents itself, we often lose all sense of reason or logic and become purely emotional. While this may be helpful in certain situations, it doesn’t necessarily eradicate issues at hand that require logical attention.

Logic is simple and straight forward, no sentiments attached. Emotion is opposite, bringing in feelings and bias into matters. As individuals, regardless of our personality types, we compromise our stand, wavering from logic to emotions at different times depending on the sensitivity or austerity of the matter at hand. So what best foot is to be put forward in finding that perfect balance to an original relationship?

All human brains have an emotional and logical side but we all have this in common — an unending strife in which both sides of our brains are locked in conflict at all times. Conflict of decision making happens us all. It is impossible to quantify the countless decisions we make in one day. Decisions we make daily range from mundane choices, like whether to sit on the sofa or the chair, to decisions as profound as asking someone for their hand in marriage. Adopting the sustainable style for that marriage is another daily decision exercise we need to be conscious of. Though our choices may seem insignificant, they are actually adding up, over time, to equal our destinies.

Emotions generate energy and movement in any situation. Even if we use emotions to get what we want, the challenge with relying exclusively on that is when the effect of the sentiment fades, it often leaves the other party with nothing concrete to fall back on. So it sort of leaves you back at square one, having to convince and persuade afresh every time. It is said that emotions drive us more from the choices we make, while practicality and objectivity only represent little of decision-making. Take for instance, the different moods that guide our decision making at every step of the way, whether you are hungry, angry, lonely or tried, decisions taking at any time might have been different if tarried and represented at another time. Perhaps, a more favorable time.

In every relationship, there has to be a balance between logic and emotions. While a case presented on emotions alone might not be seriously considered, a pure logical stance in your relationship will also not guarantee you the happiness and peace you hope to enjoy in that relationship. Logic and emotions make elements of a perfect persuasion.

Logic, on the other hand, plays the role of creating a foundation for emotions. Finding a healthy balance between both would mean understanding that the analytical type personality needs more logic than emotions while the amiable personality requires more emotions and less logic. Nonetheless, it is important to have a bit of both to create a healthy balance in your relationship regardless of the personality type of your partner.

However, I would like to know what works best in your relationship.

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