It’s another month. Happy new month. February was the month of love and it felt every inch like love was in the air.
Now for singles who had so much love in February that you want to take your relationship to another level, there are certain things to note before you say ‘I do”. I have various posts on things to note before marriage and the list in not exhaustive actually. As long as you feel uncomfortable about anything, please talk about it.
People often say love makes the world go round. I believe 100% that is true. However in marriage, while love is a good foundation for a union, it’s often not enough in most cases. You need a couple of elements to keep your relationship happily together forever even after the love might not be as strong anymore. One most important element is friendship.
Love cannot survive without friendship. Friendship exits when there is love and care and true concern for the other person. But love sometimes need time to transform into what it really is. There are different loves we experience in our lifetime and these relationships have their phases. If you are patient enough to let the love you are experiencing take its course, you might find out it was not true unconditional love in the first place.
Relationship expert John Gottman says “Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship” and that friendship is the core of a strong marriage. He has researched and proven that a high quality friendship in a marriage is an important predictor in romantic and physical satisfaction. Friendship is one of the characteristics of a happy and lasting marriage, as well as the foundation of a healthy marriage.
You find that couples that have a great friendship have a higher percentage overall of marital satisfaction. In fact, the emotional connection that married couples share is said to be five times more important than their physical intimacy. Couples that are friends look forward to spending time together because they genuinely like one another. Their activities and interests actually become enhanced because they have their favorite person with whom to share their life experiences.
The benefits of friendship in marriage are endless really and I’m not going to school you about that but if you do survive the stages of a relationship and you find you want to spend the rest of your life with that one special person, you need to be mindful to continue to do those things that you did to win their heart. Or be mindful to remind them always why you love them to bits. It’s not enough to get your spouse then treat them like you did them a favor by marrying them. That would be the greatest mistake you’ll live to regret.
I read an article recently where a lady was questioning why married women don’t give them gory details of marriage and only emphasize the sweet part. Well, truth is, marriage can be sweet. You just need to be in it for all the right reasons and with God on your side, all things are possible.
Good luck as you begin to plan your happy ever after with that significant other.