Have you noticed that great friendship precedes great relationships? The conversations you can have with a friend, for instance, is endless and so is the case when you have your friend as your partner. No matter the odds, you will always find a balance, a balance without tension and stress that’ll always keep you two together.
Conversations can help both of you understand each other better, and help both of you bond better. In every good relationship, there is no need to the conversations you can hold. There is no silly topic or childish talk; it’s all in the bid to getting to know each other and every unfolding is a delight.
Obviously, if you’re in a new relationship, both of you may have so many questions to ask each other. But sometimes we let the fear of sounding rude or getting too personal leave unspoken uncertainties and build a wall between each other which will eventually not go away if you choose not to discuss your concerns or share your reservations. This was stated in my previous post.
If you’re in a veteran relationship, both of you may be so accustomed to each other that silence may seem perfectly normal. No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, communication always brings two lovers closer together, and leads to better understanding.
The topics of discussion are endless in a healthy happy relationships. Traditional topics such as:
Plans for the weekend. Talk about your weekend plans together even if it’s still Monday evening. It’s exciting and fun, and it’ll give both of you something to look forward to after a long week of work.
Compliments. There’s nothing vain or childish about paying compliments to your partner. Talk about the things you like or admire about your partner. Let them know just how much you appreciate them.
Work. There’s always something to talk about work, be it a new project or a bad boss. By talking about each other’s work life, it’ll help both of you understand each other’s professional sides and ethics better.
Little secrets. While this may be a lot of fun and both of you can get to know each other more intimately, you need to be sure these things won’t be used against you in a fight or argument. And how do you know that? You don’t. You just have to take the chance if you are comfortable to do so.
Movies and TV shows. There’s always something new and fun every week when it comes to movies and shows. Talk about each other’s favorite shows or the movies both of you are excited to watch.
Food and restaurants. Even if your partner isn’t passionate about cooking, they’d at least appreciate good food. Talk about new restaurants or places both of you should visit over the weekend or on a special day. It’ll give both of you a chance to explore cuisines together and also make dinner plans for the weeks to come.
Personal dreams. Talk about your dreams with your partner. Tell them what you intend to do or what your visions and dreams are. It’ll make for great conversations, and help your partner get to know your personal side better.
Vacations. Plan your vacations or weekend getaways weeks or even months earlier. Vacations are almost always the highlight of an entire calendar year, so even dreamily planning it ahead of time can get both of you excited.
Hobbies and personal interests. Share your hobbies and personal interests with your partner. Chances are, your partner too may have a few hobbies that you like.
Friends. It’s always good to know more about each other’s friends. It’s a step closer to learning more about your partner’s life and what they do, especially when you aren’t around.
Proud moments. Memorable moments and childhood memories always provide for hours of fun, hilarious conversations.
Offer help. Ask your partner if you could help them with something, even if it’s as silly as a chore. Working together on tasks always brings two people closer. And it’ll always make your partner feel grateful for having you around.
Five year plans. If you’ve been dating for a while and you’re not talking about where you see yourself in years to come both as couple and in personal goals, then you might be living a false dreamy relationship.
Self-improvement. When you talk about your own flaws and where you’d like to improve, it makes your partner feel more comfortable to be vulnerable with you too.
Families. Talking about each other’s families gives hours of interesting details and gossip. And it also helps make first introductions and spending time with family more fun.
Sex talk. For a relationship to be successful, sexual intimacy is as important as romantic gestures. It’ll be exciting and revealing at the same time to talk and discover certain things about each other.
The past and future. This topic can make for intellectual conversations that can help you get to know your partner’s view about life based on past experiences and childhood memories and the pursuits that matter to them.
Personal opinions. If you truly love each other, don’t hold your thoughts back if you want to share what’s on your mind. It doesn’t matter if it’s a suggestion or a warning, if you feel it, say it. Your partner will feel good to know that you’re always looking out for them no matter what.
So there you are. The list is endless really but the key is to be open and vocal, not necessarily a talkative but be expressive enough to let your partner know you to be able to better love you.