Love is a funny thing. It comes in so many hues and ways that it’s almost impossible to predict the type of love you’d experience until you actually experience it. But as confusing, happy or even painful as it may seem, love is still something we all look forward to experience. “A life without love is terrible. Love is like oxygen. Love lifts us up where we belong” – Christian from Moulin Rouge says.
Have you noticed how the presence of love in your life makes you happier and more positive? Yes, people who are less emotionally inclined say that happiness has nothing to do with the other person. I don’t know for a fact that that is true but I do know that the presence of love in one’s life makes a lot of difference that you would otherwise not appreciate.
Throughout your life, you’ll find yourself in many circumstances of love, whether you are emotionally inclined or not, you’ll find yourself experiencing one of these many types of love.
Without really getting into theories and styles of love that can just end up complicating your mind, let’s talk about real life and the experiences you’d feel in your own life.
Platonic love is the simplest of all types. There are no strings attached and no sexual intentions either. It’s pure, friendly and something we experience from a very young age. This is the kind of relationships you share with siblings, close childhood friends and even a few grownup friends can fall right here. Do you remember the first time you missed a friend? That was probably your first platonic love moment.
Ever had a crush on someone? Of course you have! The first crush is a memorable experience, one that’s filled with confusing jolts in the stomach, sudden urges to throw up and a stupid sense of grinning satisfaction each time you see your crush. It’s a beautiful experience even if it did feel like your life depended on it at that time.
Unrequited love is a love filled with heartbreaks and one that almost all of us have experienced. It’s the dreaded one sided love, where you like someone and you know that person will never like you back. They may be in a relationship, or they may just use you. You find yourself falling more in love with each passing day, even though you know you’ll never get any happiness out of this type of love. This is the type of love that gives love a bad name. But you know what, it also helps you understand the real value of reciprocal love.
Are you an obsessive lover or someone who’s addicted to their partner? If you’ve ever been an obsessive lover, there’s a good chance you’ve sucked the life out of your partner and pissed them off until they eventually left you on the curb.
Obsessive love is usually experienced by the novices who experience love for the first time, probably after having to deal with the scary unrequited love. Now you may have been one or may have dated someone like this. It’s a stage all of us experience when we’re afraid of losing someone we love.
Selfish love is an egotistic love where you don’t care about your partner or their happiness. You only care about yourself. If you ever find yourself getting into a relationship just for the heck of it without really falling in love with the other person, chances are, you’re a selfish lover.
Ever dated someone just to appear cooler or achieve something for personal gains? If you have, tick the selfish lover off the list. If you haven’t, wait and watch yourself use someone at some point in your life. Don’t worry, it’ll eventually happen.
Lust is the type of affection you experience when you lust for someone or get into a relationship with someone you’re extremely sexually attracted to. The first few weeks are all about sex and the positions, and both of you need just a few seconds of alone time to throw each other’s clothes on the floor. If a relationship of yours revolves more around the bed and less around trees and flowers, you’re in lusty love, my love.
It’s beautiful, sappy love at its best. You feel the flutter of butterflies in your stomach, the world looks so much more beautiful and you can’t hold that grin back no matter what you do. You want to be with your sweetheart all the time, and even when you’re not together, you can’t help wanting to be together.
Blessed are the lovers who experience this special type of love for each other. It’s not easy and it’s definitely not something most people even want to try. But if you do ever take a leap of faith, you’d see what true love really feels like.
Do you love someone more than you love yourself? Do you care about your lover more than you care about anything else is the world? Chances are, you may be experiencing unconditional love. If both of you care about each other and love each other selflessly, you’re in the middle of a special type of love that few ever experience, but spend all their lives looking for. This is the most special of them all.
If you do want to ensure that you experience this type of love, take a leap of faith and truly fall back in love with someone who loves you. Soon enough, with a bit of trust, communication and hope, you may just live through this grand experience that dreams are made of. So go ahead and tick off the loves you’ve experienced or share with us any more types of love that may have been missed out in this article.
Have a love-filled week ahead.