Is there really a need for relationship counselling?

Unlike Maths and English or other any subject which comes with textbooks and manuals for study and understanding, relationships don’t come with manuals. Be it relationship with children, parents, colleagues, spouses and any other type of interactive relationship we find ourselves in. However, you may find a lot of texts giving their opinion on how to better maintain relationships but really, what works for someone might not work for another. It’s not in the method of execution, it’s the human factor which is very unpredictable. And that is what you need to put into consideration the most – the person whom you are in a relationship with. You need to study them, understand what makes them happy, understand what ticks them off, and understand how they want to be appreciated and all of that. Once you have the understanding of your target in mind, that’s about half of your relationship success story.

If this be the case, is there need for relationship counselling then? If people can just study each other and consciously work towards a great relationship, why do we need to subject ourselves to counselling? … More Is there really a need for relationship counselling?

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Dangerous Waters

We were two complete strangers

But soon I was your friend

I quickly learned the waters were full of dangers

And it became a trend

The pattern went on without an end

It breaks me down

If only I were able to turn my back

But you broke my heart and it won’t mend

Because you took a knife to it

And brought tears to these eyes

Out here in the black sea

You can’t hear my cries

I have to admit I’ll miss you

But I know it’s true

In this waters I will drown … More Dangerous Waters

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Emotions & Health Connects

It’s amazing how every sphere of our lives are intertwined in each other. How the intangible things can affect the tangible things for instance. This is proven true in a health talk I read recently as it addresses emotional balance and general well-being. How does this affect general well-being, you might ask? Well, shall we explore this together?

Let’s have an understanding of what health is for starters. Health is the state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. Hence, the absence of optimal function in one area does depict the deficiency in total well-being of an individual.

Emotional well-being can be described as being confident, having a solid self-esteem, building trust, and being able to understand another’s feelings without biases. Have you ever assumed for someone only to find that what you’re implying isn’t at all what they have in their minds? Has this happened to you more than once perhaps? Has it also occurred to you that perhaps you are constantly assuming the wrong things because your mind is actually what’s playing tricks on you? … More Emotions & Health Connects

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Healthy topics to discuss in a happy relationship

Have you noticed that great friendship precedes great relationships? The conversations you can have with a friend, for instance, is endless and so is the case when you have your friend as your partner. No matter the odds, you will always find a balance, a balance without tension and stress that’ll always keep you two together.

Conversations can help both of you understand each other better, and help both of you bond better. In every good relationship, there is no need to the conversations you can hold. There is no silly topic or childish talk; it’s all in the bid to getting to know each other and every unfolding is a delight.

Obviously, if you’re in a new relationship, both of you may have so many questions to ask each other. But sometimes we let the fear of sounding rude or getting too personal leave unspoken uncertainties and build a wall between each other which will eventually not go away if you choose not to discuss your concerns or share your reservations. This was stated in my previous post. … More Healthy topics to discuss in a happy relationship

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The many loves in a lifetime.

Love is a funny thing. It comes in so many hues and ways that it’s almost impossible to predict the type of love you’d experience until you actually experience it. But as confusing, happy or even painful as it may seem, love is still something we all look forward to experience. “A life without love is terrible. Love is like oxygen. Love lifts us up where we belong” – Christian from Moulin Rouge says.

Have you noticed how the presence of love in your life makes you happier and more positive? Yes, people who are less emotionally inclined say that happiness has nothing to do with the other person. I don’t know for a fact that that is true but I do know that the presence of love in one’s life makes a lot of difference that you would otherwise not appreciate. … More The many loves in a lifetime.

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Relationship Topics People Don’t Like To Discuss

I called up a friend recently and we got talking. It would be her 10th wedding anniversary soon and I couldn’t help but ask her what’s been the secret to her happy healthy home. She had a lot to say but eventually she narrowed it down to good friendship, trust and God.

Now these elements in themselves are vast and could be a topic of discussion on their own but really what determines whether a relationship will work out or not? Is it how much we first loved each other? Or how well we are able to understand each other? Is it how much we are able to communicate? Or how effective and timely our communications are? Is it how much of the good, bad and ugly we know about each other and we are still able to work out our differences? Or how seemingly perfect we are in each other’s eyes?

I think it’s a little bit of all these elements without which we wouldn’t even have given each other a chance, talk more of having a relationship.

While the list is endless, some of us shy away from facing the salient bits that affects our relationships. You can find some of my reservations in Things I wish I knew before marriage. And it’s not just before marriage really; we grow to know each other every day. Any gap in communication or closeness could be detrimental to the relationship we tried so hard to build. … More Relationship Topics People Don’t Like To Discuss

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