Good, Acceptable and Perfect Will

Someone once told me to trust in God is good. To believe in Him and have faith that He will sort you out is good. Then I asked, what if after believing I also make plans for just in case. He said, that is applying wisdom which is acceptable. But resting on completely on God by the renewing of your mind is an example of a perfect will of God. Then I began to ponder. I always thought a good acceptable and perfect will of God is one narrative.

Looking at Romans 12:2, I must have read it time and again but I never paid extra attention to the last part of the verse. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” … More Good, Acceptable and Perfect Will

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Really, what’s the significance of a wedding proposal to the marriage itself?

Ahh! Love is in the air. Everything suddenly feels different. Life suddenly has a new meaning and it makes you see things differently. It makes you certain there must have been something there that wasn’t there before. In the words of Mrs. Pots from Beauty and the Beast.

Love is indeed wonderful when you get it right. But how do you tell that you’ve gotten it right? A lot of us don’t have the patience to explore through the stages of a relationship before we are so sure we have found the love of our lives.

Relationships, these days, are formed in different ways, in different places, through different forums. Unlike the days of our parents when there were not so many avenues or determinants to choosing a life partner. These days, a lot of things or people seem to play a huge role in how we envisage a successful marriage.

I mean, what you do call a situation where a lady posts on her Instagram page that her a boyfriend finally proposed to her but she declined his proposal because their wedding hashtag names wouldn’t sound posh? Like seriously? Call me old but what has a “posh” name hashtag got to do with spending the rest of your life, whether happily or otherwise, with a life partner? If you don’t love someone, you will always find a thousand and one reasons to stop a wedding. True love is in the eyes of your partner. It’s in their character and care for you, not in a name hashtag!

Worse still, a lot of people in this generation, place way too much emphasis on their wedding proposal rather than planning and seeking counsel for a successful marriage. Don’t get me wrong, I would love wedding proposal with flowers and roses and sunset on the beach and things but hey, if I get that and what comes thereafter is a life of pain and misery with abuse and violence, does that not just totally take away the beauty of what I thought was once there but now is clearly not there again? Or was it ever truly there before? Hmm.

Set your priorities right. Don’t be fooled by social media and friends who only are interested in making a mockery of your life. If you have it, flowers and all – truly, then grab it. Embrace it – it’s beautiful and breathtaking. But don’t focus on the vanity of shallow love and keeping up appearances and forget what’s really important.

Be guided. … More Really, what’s the significance of a wedding proposal to the marriage itself?

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Break the rules; live a little. No, live a lot. It’s just one life to live

People have often say to me, ‘live a little’.

I know I can be stiff and I can be hard on myself. Don’t get me wrong, I know what fun is. It’s just that I either don’t have the strength or stamina for it or I just come up with excuses why I shouldn’t or can’t make out time for it.

I have a lot ideas and dreams that I juggle on my mind over and over but I also can’t shake off the fact that I need a considerable amount of time to put my ideas into action. Other important things take up my time as well but at the end of the day, those things I’m not doing are the things that hunt me and say to me, ‘you could have done better today’ when I lay my head on my bed.

Different people are aiming for different things especially because it’s a new year. Yet there a many people out there too who we can connect with or collaborate with and form great alliances to achieve great goals this year. But more importantly, while we seek to achieve dreams and attain our goals, let’s not forget what is most important. A life well spent. … More Break the rules; live a little. No, live a lot. It’s just one life to live

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Sustaining the woman’s vision

I am proud to be a woman, not because I am a wife or a mother. I am proud to be a woman because just like man, I am educated, I have dreams, aspirations, hopes and I get to do these things that men do while being a wife and a mother.

I thought my 8 – 5 job was hectic until I stayed a few days on leave at home doing my ‘primary assignment’. Seriously, that’s more than my 8 – 5 job. The home is demanding and there’s no relief from it.

Now imagine that this is all a woman gets to do, be a wife and a mother. Is she working? Definitely. Is she being paid for it? In most cases, no not physical cash and when the payments come, they don’t come immediately. Building a home is an investment. Only in this case can I truly attest that the patient dog eats the fattest bone and that too is by God’s mercies. … More Sustaining the woman’s vision

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Live for this moment!

I could begin to list out 5 things or 10 or even 20 things you can practice to get rid of your life of fear but some of us are not wired that way. We don’t believe in conventions or plans or therapy. Some people are just revolutionist and set in their ways, believing that a breakthrough from fear is not resolved from a practice or therapy but of a sudden turn of events. Yes, perhaps a sudden turn of events for good may change your frame of mind but does it actually eradicate that fearful lifestyle? Does it take away our anxieties? Maybe. Temporarily.

Maybe temporarily because until you are comfortable with yourself, your fears, your sadness, your good times and bad times, you may just end up chasing the wind even after that breakthrough comes.

But however you are wired, you need to let go of the things you can’t help and enjoy the things that are before you while devoting yourself into working out the things you genuinely hope to change. … More Live for this moment!

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Happy New Year!

Knock knock! Anybody home?

Just checking that you made it into the New Year.

Of course, why wouldn’t you? God is faithful through and through.

So here’s me wishing you a prosperous and brand new year full of more ups than downs, full of more successes and breaking new records than failure, full of more first time milestones than moments of doubt and fear.

You are only as big as you invest your time and passion into making your dreams into a reality, not wallowing in the emotions of the failures from yesterday or the one you’ve already created in your mind for today.

It’s a new year. Go for your dreams and make every day count. Just like you listed out the things you wanted to do in 2016 and you were not able to do some, 2016 will never come back again. The days gone by this year 2017 will also never come back again. What have you done differently that’s deserving of that fantastic life you think you want so badly?

Yes, you only think you want it. You’re not even sure because if you did want it desperately, you’d have started off on a memorable journey by now.

So as you celebrate the New Year, let the excitement set you in the right direction into making 2017 a year of establishment.

Have a beautiful year ahead! … More Happy New Year!

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