Talk is such a big thing. It never used to be before or so I thought until it became a huge emphasis in pre-marital counselling classes, marital counselling classes and in almost everyday activities. It’s called communication.
Communication is so very important in relationships, all types of relationships, not just romantic relationships and it includes both the verbal and nonverbal varieties. A relationship is a connection and exchange between people. Communication plays a large role in the exchange between people. It informs you of ideas, wants, desires, feelings, and much more. Incomplete or stopped communication can create a block in the relationship which doesn’t help any relationship really.
It is interesting though how people easily take advantage or abuse the power or importance communication in a relationship. I mentioned in an earlier post, wondering what amount of talk is too much information and what is really appreciated when spoken.
Yes, we emphasize communication but what do we say when we communicate? When do we choose to communicate when we have something to say? What exactly is permissible to say? How are we to react when our aim of communication is being rejected or defeated?
One thing you ought not to do, however, is discourage an open and honest communication policy in your relationship. You could sending the wrong message – communication avoidance. A communication avoidance or stop will prevent a topic from being shared and gone through. When enough of these areas build up or a couple important ones develop, it will create clamps on the lungs of the relationship and your relationship will have trouble breathing.
On the other hand, if you recognize that you are having difficulty in having a talk, there are a variety of ways to get it going. If you can’t say what you need to, you may be able to write it instead. If you can’t approach a person directly or at that time, perhaps another time, a more pleasant and less tense situation will present itself and you may be able to convey your message at a more apt time.
However, paying attention is an important half of communication. Communication is part giving and part receiving. Both parts are necessary by both partners for a good communication to take place. Some people are good listeners and some are good talkers, but both partners have to do both for complete and effective communication. Attention has to be given to both sides of communication to insure that the communication remains completed by both partners.
Again, what do you say when you communicate? When do you choose to communicate when you have something to say? What exactly is permissible to say? How are you to react when your aim of communication is being rejected or defeated?