Have you ever loved someone or you hang out together most of the time with them, you assume they have the same feelings for you without defining your relationship only to find out they are actually in love with some other person and not you?
Urgh! Typical case of friend zoning. It’s a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable or dreaded situation by the lovelorn person. If a desired party does not return or respond affirmatively to the advances or affection of the desiring party, but continues to participate in the friendship in a platonic way, it is sometimes described as friend-zoning.
However, if you think about it in the positive way, perhaps you won’t feel so bad to be friend zoned. When you’re in a relationship anyway, the person you are with should be like your best friend, right. There shouldn’t be anything that you can’t tell that person and nothing they should be able to share everything with you. So perhaps the best way to start a relationship that is truly worth anything is to start off as friends.
On the flip side, when a woman knows you love her in a way she knows she could never reciprocate or vis versa, people generally tend to take advantage of each other, draining out the good in the other person in such a way that sometimes the lovelorn feels hesitant to give love again even when he thinks he’s found it.
Either way, whether it’s got its advantages or not, trust me, most times, it’s not a pretty place to be. So if you don’t want to be left out in the cold, define your relationship once you sense it’s time to set the boundaries to take things to the next level.
Good luck with that though. Happy weekend guys!