“Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress and working together is success” – Henry Ford
If after all the stress of waking up to my 8 to 5 job, I am able to take away learnings that are applicable in more areas than one, then I am grateful I have a job that gives me such exposure.
I was recently at a Project Management training and a lot of things resonated in various ways that just classroom teaching. Basically everything in life is a project if you look at it in the sense of a classroom teaching. However, for the benefit of my blog, I wish to narrow this to the basics of marriage.
Come to think of it, I read on a blog once where the writer said she doesn’t believe in pre-marriage counselling. Well, I suppose that could work if you’ve dated your spouse long enough but then, I would still have opted for a pre-marriage counselling session. It sort of forms the scope of marriage – letting one know what to expect in marriage, what to do, what not to do, how to behave and what not to accept, to persevere, to love, to be forgiving and all those things. I hold those classes in high esteem and still refer to them as often as need be. So imagine a scenario where a naïve couple plunge into this institution, the only institution where you are given a certificate before commencing your first test. Forgive me, but it almost sounds like someone luring you into the deep with a million dollars. In any case, you need to understand the depth and width of your relationship before giving into marriage. Suffice to say at this point that the list of depths and widths is endless but not having one at all could be destabilizing.
Like my father always say, you plan – good for you, you don’t – maybe not so good but all the same it doesn’t necessarily translate to your success in life. Time and chance happen to us all. In any way, I’ll recommend planning over plunging blindly into any task.
By the first class exercise in my Project Management class, we were asked to write the process of project management, I wrote out the scope of work, plan, execution, evaluation and close out. Did you notice I missed out a critical part of as a good project manager? Risk analysis! For people who like to live in denial, they usually leave out this important factor in planning probably because they don’t want to factor in any negativity into their work. It’s not negativity, it’s life. Risk and challenges happen from time to time. When you factor in ways and strategies to mitigate them, it gives a lesser chance of falling into negativity in your delivery timeline. Planning against risks too doesn’t guarantee that they won’t happen but in factoring them into your project, it gives you a leverage over challenges and you are less overwhelmed or not at all when they happen.
Just like in project management, every relationship too has its stages or levels. The rate at which we are able to quickly move up in stages of our marriage means the faster we are able to attain peace and harmony to perform optimally as a unit.
Every good project manager wants to deliver a flawless work. If then you take your marriage as a project and you want to succeed at it, then it’s not too late to go back to the drawing board and start from the beginning. Only thing you need is a willing partner.