Between her memory and her sister


I found this interesting story on Instagram and I wanted to share on here for some interesting debate. Or perhaps, it’s not so much of a debate but see story below. You be the judge.

I met my wife when she was 22. I was 28 then. She was an orphan and struggling really hard to make ends meet. She had none except her younger sister, Doris who was 20 then. My wife didn’t want to go back to school so I started a business for her instead. We got married a year later. Due to some issues she wasn’t able to conceive till 5 years after our wedding. We had twin boys but I lost my wife during childbirth. Her sister who has been staying with us since we got married stayed on after my wife passed. She cared for my boys like they were hers and we got through our loss together. She had to quit her job at a point to take care of the children. She has been taking care of me as well. She cooks, cleans, washes, run errands and practically does all the household activities. She has really been good to us since it happened. The problem is this: she entered into my room last week and told me to my face that she is in love with me and that I should man up and pay her bride price. I was too stunned to say anything. She kissed me and left. I left very early for work the next morning because I was avoiding her and yet she brought lunch to the office. When I got back at night, I avoided her again and went straight to my room and locked it. She knocked but I pretended to be asleep. I spoke to my mom about this and to my surprise, she was okay with it. It’s not like I don’t love her enough to wife her but I feel like it disrespects the memory of my wife. If I have to remarry, it shouldn’t be her sister. So I rented a house for her and told her to move there. I told her I will take care of my children from now on. But the whole family is against me now, talking about how she has given up a lot for me, and I’m being ungrateful and she’s in love with me. Please help. What do I do? Should I go ahead and marry her? It just feels wrong. I loved my late wife and I don’t want to disrespect her memory. I also don’t want to be seen as an ungrateful person owing to the fact that Doris did a lot for me and my kids. She keeps saying I threw her out which I didn’t. I just wanted some space between us before things get intense one day in the house and we find ourselves on top of each other. Advice.

Ok so that’s the rant of a man who seems to be confused after enjoying so many “benefits” from someone he feels hesitant to wife. If you were to give him your advice, what would it be?

4 thoughts on “Between her memory and her sister

  1. Those are a lot of ‘benefits’ he seemed to have enjoyed,but it appears that none was sexual. I think this is a bad case of friend zoning. And I would never advocate for marriage just because a friend fell in love. What happens when the guy finally meets a woman he falls in love with? This is a very confusing state.

      1. That’s an even tougher one. Fighting with a ghost is definitely harder. Especially when clearly he is still holding on tightly.would it be easier for him to move on if she wasn’t the sister?

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