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In my amateur attempt to decipher The Essence of Life, I published a research work in 2007. Speaking of which, I should have a new edition and an e-copy as well. I’ll get to that before the end of the year, God willing. In my book, there was a chapter I dedicated to examining success as the most thing in life. Unfortunately, people are only able to relate success to money. The more money they have in their bank account translates to how successful they are. Don’t get me wrong – money is good, in fact, it is heartwarming. I should know – I’m woman 🙂 . But it doesn’t translate to success. To me, success is like all round prosperity – in health, in wealth, in relationships and most importantly peace of mind. So you can see that money is only a fraction of success.
However fractional money is in the bucket of success, it doesn’t deride the importance of money in our lives and existence as humans. Our world is primarily based around money anyway. How you view money in your life then affects your lifestyle. You need to be informed of the tools and knowledge to manage yourself in a way that you don’t let money take over you. And money is definitely one major thing in our society that influences a person’s lifestyle, more in bad ways than good. Or better put, it can have the most extreme effect of both sides on a person’s life. … More Money matters
You know how no matter how much you try to patch a basket and fill it with water and it still can’t hold water? My African people may be able to relate with this scenario. Unfortunately, a well patched basket will never hold water. That’s how bad a broken or patched or cracked heart can be. You can only try to mend, maybe over time be healed but once something happens again that has happened before, you might realize you were never completely healed before.
I know someone who has had many broken hearts but like the song, Still believe in Love by Shola Ama, my friend wouldn’t be discouraged from loving again and again. Maybe it’s a good thing, right? But when I sit to analyze it, perhaps it’s the outcome resulting from a broken heart. You know how people who never had a mother always seek motherly love from every other woman, that’s what a broken heart or a vacuum can do to you. It gets you looking for love everywhere and God forbid you think you’ve found it and in the wrong person. So you love once, love again when it doesn’t work, try again when it seems this time might be different, then over and over again. Until you end up hating the idea of a relationship, carrying bitterness and unforgiveness in your heart. Because at the beginning stage of every relationship, men are persistent enough to get what they want. Their persistence is like the water and your cracked heart is like the patched basket, if they try hard enough, they will penetrate you and God help you he’s just another phony, you’re left with an even worse state of heart. … More The dangers of a cracked heart
My mood this morning. . . isi ewu delicacy.
I can do with a glass of white wine too.
… More Tuesday Morning Mood
I saw the below link story in the papers just the next day from my previous post and I thought I needed to share it. However, I have been pretty occupied lately so forgive me it’s coming a bit behind schedule.
Man murders wife’s lover on their matrimonial bed.
Seriously, guys when I hear of this sort of stories, it really does reiterate my cry for love in a marriage. And really, if it’s not working anymore, be courageous enough to save everyone the stress and address the issues. If it so happens to lead to a divorce, then I suppose it’s better and more respectable that way than become a mockery like this.
Be a respectable and responsible adult.
… More Domestic Issues
Ok so this is a debate I was trying rationalize in my head until I thought why not throw it open to you guys and have some mature and moral opinion on this subject. I would, therefore, appreciate that you drop a comment or opinion after you read this. I will try to make it brief so you can get by your business for the day.
From the inception of the humanity, God created woman for man and man to fulfil responsibility toward his woman but having seen how insatiable people are, God became lenient on us when He commanded through Moses that if we can’t be faithful or are insatiable for any reason (of course, first for infidelity), the man may give his wife a certificate of divorce and they may both go their separate ways. But when Jesus was asked by the Pharisee priests, to be tested, He told them it was because of the nature of man that God had bended that rule – for our benefit.
These days, a lot of people want to eat their cake and have it. It tends to be sweeter that way. They want to be married, whether happy or not. They want to have children, God forbid their marriage isn’t working out, they then blame it on the children, chanting that if it weren’t for the children, they would have left their marriage. They want that security that marriage provides regardless of whether it’s working or not. So for every reason they can find, they stay and forge ahead. However, for those who for one reason or the other are not happy or satisfied in their marriages, they feel they can cheat on their partners and get the attention, love or whatever it is they are looking for elsewhere while they keep sanity and maintain a comfortable distance at home. No one knows, no harm is done.
But we are all adults in marriage, right? Why do we find it easier to cheat in a failed/failing marriage than work on our marriages? Or worse still, why do we find it easier to cheat on our partners than to just sit and have a mature adult conversation and just say, ‘you know what, I loved you once but we’ve grown apart and I realized we now want different things. Therefore, we’re not/we won’t work anymore’ and just move on rather than cause everyone more harm, because that’s the situation in reality, than pretend to be patching things up?
I want to know. If you prefer to stay anonymous while you comment, please feel free but I’d love to read from you. Perhaps, we can all find the bravery to face the situations as they are.
… More Is it more morally acceptable to walk out of a failed marriage than to cheat on your partner?
I am not an outcome by my status as a woman,
Neither am I of consequence by being a wife and a mother.
I am confident to hold my own,
Juggling my responsibilities perfectly abreast my dreams.
I am a product of my youth.
I am a product of my dreams.
I am a product of my potential and passion.
I am not limited by the decisions I have made.
I am made of the toughness of the African woman.
Working endlessly, tirelessly, achieving more every day.
I am intelligent, creative, smart and witty
Yet I am stern and discerning of the right
I am more than what you see
I am more than this skin
I am more than my face
I am more than my breasts
I am more than my skirt
I am more because I am made of more
… More I am made of more