You know how no matter how much you try to patch a basket and fill it with water and it still can’t hold water? My African people may be able to relate with this scenario. Unfortunately, a well patched basket will never hold water. That’s how bad a broken or patched or cracked heart can be. You can only try to mend, maybe over time be healed but once something happens again that has happened before, you might realize you were never completely healed before.
I know someone who has had many broken hearts but like the song, Still believe in Love by Shola Ama, my friend wouldn’t be discouraged from loving again and again. Maybe it’s a good thing, right? But when I sit to analyze it, perhaps it’s the outcome resulting from a broken heart. You know how people who never had a mother always seek motherly love from every other woman, that’s what a broken heart or a vacuum can do to you. It gets you looking for love everywhere and God forbid you think you’ve found it and in the wrong person. So you love once, love again when it doesn’t work, try again when it seems this time might be different, then over and over again. Until you end up hating the idea of a relationship, carrying bitterness and unforgiveness in your heart. Because at the beginning stage of every relationship, men are persistent enough to get what they want. Their persistence is like the water and your cracked heart is like the patched basket, if they try hard enough, they will penetrate you and God help you he’s just another phony, you’re left with an even worse state of heart.
No one can give to you what they don’t have. No one can love you better than you love yourself. No one can want for you want you don’t want for yourself. No one can treat you in a way that you don’t allow. You have the power over your heart. It’s not a sin to have a broken heart but how you are able to take control and own her heart and decisions thereafter will help you through and through. What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us is indeed nothing compared to what lies within us. You are first your own hero. Own your heart and your decisions and guard the rubbish you let in.
Have a lovely weekend ahead!