It kind of reminds me of the concept of Noise of the Market. Of course, the story is different but the similarity is there are a lot of distractions on a football field when there’s a match in play. However, a good player knows that his best bet is never to take his eyes off the ball.
So I was looking through Instagram last night and I stumbled upon this picture message about red pill and blue pill. The blue pill is to take you back 10years while the red makes you an instant billionaire. The comments were interesting. A lot of people said they would take the red pill stating that money would erase all passed mistakes, make everything better, is the answer to every problem and makes every problem more tolerable. Although, of course, it’s not a good idea to turn down money, I should know – I’m a woman. Other people commented they would take the blue pill and go back 10years to fix everything and perhaps even be able to make more than a billion worth in money. I remember I saw a comment that chose both (the red and blue pill). Now if that were possible, I would fall into that category – to take both pills.
Going back 10years won’t be a bad idea, at least not for me and taking a pill to be an instant billionaire might be good as well. You might sense my hesitation about taking the red pill. I’m very conscious about things that turns you around instantly, like a slimming pill or tea that’s guaranteed to work really fast or an easy way out of anything. Maybe I have a fear for an ever faster boomerang when it decides to turn on you. So, in this case, if I take the red pill making me an instant billionaire, I might be constantly looking over my shoulder. And in any case, that wouldn’t be my first option because in becoming a billionaire, I don’t believe it takes away problems, not if they are not money related problems. Imagine a single mother who is in need of love, warmth and strength, I don’t imagine money take away her problems. Or a divorcee who’s desperately anxious, questioning if anything can be ok again. Or a victim of domestic violence who only wants everything to be normal in the relationship. Or a person seeking love and affection and attention, does being an instant billionaire take their want away? Maybe going back 10years doesn’t either but perhaps, knowing what we know now, maybe going back 10years to fix things wouldn’t be a bad idea.
What do you think?
… More Red or Blue pill anyone?
In light of my previous post on building successful careers, I would like to explore a more in-depth satisfaction and balance to doing the things that you love while creating time for every other thing/people that you love as well.
I once read that the greatest achievers are dreamers. I didn’t understand it at first but I came to appreciate it almost immediately after realizing the power of an initial conception of an idea if strategized rightly. A friend uses the slogan ‘Success is 99% persistence and 1% passion’ as his email signature. It caught my attention, pulling me back to my self-realization and how I’m doing in regards to the things I dreamed of doing. Even Thomas A. Edison states that “Genius is 99% perspiration and 1% is inspiration”. There has been and still is an increasing percentage, and even more of realization, into the entrepreneur-fold.
I have a lot of thoughts embedded in me, thoughts on how to help someone else be better, help someone else make more informed decisions, help youths be better for themselves and the community. I haven’t concluded on a better way to reach out other than writing. I am open to other ways though. In the meantime, I know I am inclined by my style of living to body consciousness and fashion. I hope to via into this as my retirement business, as a gift to myself eventually. But I do know people who are more passionate and inclined to growing businesses, both theirs and others’, out of a dynamic market need to meet a larger need. These set of people are at more advantage of creating wealth from multiple sources for almost, if not, a lifetime.
In the increasing conviction of the corporate world of constant downsizing and reallocation of manual labor to mechanical, it has become imperative for us all to dig deep and find something else, extra, or even full time to engage in so that we ourselves can become a wealth creator and perhaps eventually, an employer of labor. It’s about time that we are fed up of that one unpredictable source of inflow and device many sources to build that resourceful bottom-line we desire for a comfortable retirement.
So what do you need to look out for in the mirror the next time you’re there? You need to identify in you the face of an entrepreneur, a go-getter. The face of the entrepreneur who is an ardent dreamer, with enough fire-power in the belly, a zealous pursuit, a mighty purpose to fill a need and build sufficient force fields to enable you make the world a better place while reaping some economic rewards for doing so and not the other way round.
It’s not too late to begin with a dream. Neither is it too late to dig out your dream where you once left off.
… More The face of entrepreneurship
A face, a place not bound by space or time
In my solitude, I hear the many voices
In my quietness, I hear it loud
Yet not at all in the midst of the ones I love
A value for time is my vocation
The power to fill a need is my passion
I am content in your content
Yet in my solitude, I hear the many voices
Challenging me of the many yet I am yet to be
So my search continues
Of a fulfillment
Of a face
A place, not bound by space or time
Until then, my search continues
… More A face, a place not bound by space or time
In the days of my mother, more women were willing to stay back home and look after the family and they were contented doing so. Fathers provided with dignity and integrity attached to every responsibility. Now, more and more women seem to be getting more interested in taking the bull by the horn, working to earn their share of the cake. It’s, however, still a debate in the church whether a woman’s place is at home taking care of the family or on the field, plowing it to bring home some virtuous spoils. Either way, I don’t see the men complaining about enjoying in the spoils.
Yet, it has been in the rumors that women who tend to be successful in their fields are incapable of holding down the home front. I know a few women who have been carried away by the success and attention at work that they can barely afford quality time with their families, praying earnestly for their partner to understand their inability to be available. However, in the end, they have had a repentance of sort, wishing they had made more time to be with their families, getting to know and appreciate every milestone and development being a true mother and house keeper in the intent of womanhood. Because really, after all that is said and done, the best things in life are free.
However, how and when is working for a woman too much? Is it totally unnecessary to put time and effort into building a career or business? As expected of a man to live inheritance for his children, I should suppose so it is a woman. We (both men and women) all face the downside of losing quality time with our families if we are not careful to draw the line into a work-life balance so I’d say it is pretty unfair to emphasize the accusation on women. A good number of women have more to offer than their partners want to give them credit for, believe me.
I believe it is possible, though not easy but attainable, to have the best of both worlds as a woman. The key to it is finding that work-life balance that works for you. If you have reservations, comments or suggestions, please drop them in the section below. Let’s learn together.
It’s the beginning of another week full of potential ladies, go get ‘em!
… More Myth or Truth: Women with successful careers are not always so lucky in their personal lives
It’s been an unusual week so far, I don’t know about you. And I can’t help it but the past few days I’ve been feeling rather overwhelmed by a lot of goings on around me – work, family, today, tomorrow and whatever else seem to be roaming around my head. And I thought, it sure is hard to be a grown up. If only I could go back 10years and live without these adult responsibilities. I wish! Would it have stirred my life a different course? But definitely I would be less apprehensive about everything today. But then I came across this quote above and I immediately felt grateful.
In truth, life’s struggles have its way of making us feel burdened but I am encouraged to see life as a privilege, forget my age (if I can), and live in every moment, embracing every day and having fun growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. I’m just going to count my many blessings instead.
I needed to encourage myself! I hope I encouraged you too.
… More It’s not easy but it’s worth every day
A father, a brother, a lover, a husband, a son
Man to me is an epitome of strength,
A support through life’s hurdles
Man to me portrays protection,
Protection from wiles and life’s trickery
Man to me is humility,
Exemplifying God to me
Not lording over my feminism
Man to me is persistence,
Taking responsibility, ownership
Man to me is success
Manly, muscular, striding with such gait that commands respect
Man to me is a mentor, a guide
Man to me is gentle and kind
Knowing when to throw me off balance
And realizing when to bring me back into an assuring embrace
Man to me is a father, a brother, a lover, a husband and a son
Bringing smiles to my face and chills to every ounce of my being
… More What is man to me?
I like to watch Indian movies and before you think you know why, it’s not only for the unrealistic romance and happy endings they portray. For what it’s worth the pictures and stories are better than Nigerian movies and that’s dating back as far as the 80s. And even when they copy American movies, Nigerian movies would still not measure up to the copied edition. Anyway, my subject this morning isn’t about Indian, Nigerian or American movies but it’s about one character I wish to make an example of – Saloni.
I was in church one Sunday morning and the pastor must have mentioned something about grace, answered prayers and moving into your rest. That was when I thought about Saloni. Remember when I said Indian movies are about unrealistic romance, they could be unrealistic alright but I believe that the story of Saloni is one that transcends beyond answered prayers and entering into your place of rest. Life, peace, joy, happiness, and love. All these things are journeys, not a destiny so at every juncture of life we find ourselves, there is always something ahead waiting to be conquered.
Saloni is a dark skinned Indian girl looked at as an outcast despite being born to parents of fair skin. Her younger sister didn’t like to associate with her for this purpose. Only her aunty encouraged her and stood by her always. When she had lost all hope of ever finding a suitor, she met the bone of her bone and flesh of her flesh and they all lived happily ever after? No! It was only the beginning of greater challenges to come in her life. You see, her husband had been married before and was accused of killing his first wife. Only Saloni was eager to find evidence that her husband was innocent. Once that battle was won in court, her sister-in-law’s elder sister who was brought into their home to be a surrogate for her sister became the biggest thorn in the family. Saloni was always in constant battle with her. Then the supposed first wife to her husband resurfaced under the pretext of being a twin. Her husband believed her and took her in at the detriment of his marriage. Then Saloni herself was accused of infidelity and thrown out of the house. Back and forth like that. The family’s enemies always saw Saloni as a threat standing in their way of destroying the Singh family but with Saloni’s persistence, prayers and faith, no one was able to successfully overthrow the family. Until her sister-in-law’s sister succeeded in breaking her by killing her husband. Saloni became a widow but was still devoted to protecting her family and she succeeded eventually but only after the death of the beloved husband she found with difficulty in the first place.
When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. If you can’t be persistent to see a thing through, better not to start it at all. My point here is, life is in phases, we win some and we lose some. Winning some doesn’t interpret into a place of rest. The next place is also a battle to be conquered until the day we die. Be more careful that you don’t let your guards down assuming you have conquered all. From grass to grace but even grace itself is in need of devout maintenance. Work out your salvation constantly with fear and trembling. Either way, you might have a happily ever after but it doesn’t mean you would have won it all.
… More A place of rest