Ok so marriages, break ups more than make-ups, have been trending this weekend. Then I remember that my 28 year old sister who is yet to be married said to me, ‘marriage is over rated’. Seriously! I wish a lot of people were or are confident to realize and accept the fact. Then I suppose it’ll correct a lot of false assumptions and hopes.
In my post why men get married, you will discover along with other reasons, of course, some of the wrong reasons why men tend to want to settle down most of the time. It takes only a few who know their onions to realize, actualize and get it right. Suffice to say that only 50% of men get it right at the first marriage anyway. And trust me, it either gets worse more often than not than it does by the second or third marriage because the level of commitment and loyalty, respect and value for the union is diminished anyway. … More My jewel of inestimable value
Whether a father loves more than a mother is the topic of debate
Where I come from, we naturally assume that no one can care for a child better than a mother. No one can do for you what you mother cannot do for you. Or rather in my brother’s words, no one can do for you what your father can not do for you. I know parents are the best thing or next best thing that can ever happen to a child but when I heard today of a debatable topic, whether a father loves a child more than a mother, I decided to give it a try to unravel so let’s learn together.
A mother births a child, having borne 9 months of discomfort and hard labor. Suffice to say that only 1 out of every 10 women survive child birth, I’d say that is a huge sacrifice for any woman to bare for the sake and love for a child. Now, whether that mother ends up loving that child above all else, I confidently say, is another issue entirely. I mean, I know of someone who has never spoken words of love to her child or someone who only puts her needs and comfort first even above the comfort of her children. Can we say that type of mother loved her child during those 9 months of discomfort and labor? Maybe. Or maybe it was only the idea of motherhood that drive some of us to want to birth a child.
Now where I come from, a man taking more than one woman is forgivable. So because of this we say, a father is to many as a mother is to one – her own. Because of this, we assume that a father has little or no sentiment and attention for a child perhaps because they are either too many for him to afford the attention to or he is busy trying to cater to the family. Yet I know of a man who willingly devoted all his life, time, love and resources to his children after their mother decided mothering was not for her. I know of a father who even after his daughters are married, he still wants to be involved and share their happiness.
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For all the years that I’ve known you baby I can’t figure out the reason why lately you’ve been acting so cold If there’s a problem we should work it out So why you giving me the cold shoulder now Like you don’t even want to talk to me You make things drag on so … More I’m sorry
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I have wanted to write on this subject since Tuesday but it’s not as pleasant to write about as it is to get the campaign against this out there. A friend of mine sent me a video sometime in 2013. I love her but I couldn’t restrict myself from letting her…
Originally posted on Welcome To ScentNG:
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Opposites often attract. Did you ever think that it was a cruel joke that most of us find ourselves attracted to people very much unlike us? But consider the possibility that those differences that can seem so problematic may actually be the very things that add spice and passion to your relationship. We may be drawn to people out of needs and desires that are unfulfilled in our lives, such as a desire for security, love, support, and comfort. So if like things are supposed to repel, why is a woman attracted to another woman? Or why is a man attracted to another man? Or why is a conservative person attracted to an introvert? These things defile the law of nature – go forth and multiply. How do you multiply your talent and skills or expand and grow your potential when you are limited by your own mind and in the decisions you are making?
So here are a few things I think one should have at the forefront of mind when choosing a life partner. That type of partner who compliments you, who is strong in your weakness, who is knowledgeable in your grey areas, who buys into your dreams and has the know-how to actualize your dreams and maximizes your potential.
… More Choosing a life partner
It gives me great pleasure when I can be of help, encouragement, bringing pleasure and fulfillment to someone else’s day by my little medium of writing. One of my fellow favorite blogger called me a ‘quiet blogger’ once and I struggled to understand what it means to be a quiet blogger. Either way, I am happy to give you something to read. … More Bloggers appreciation award
Someone said: For men, it’s the greatest betrayal. A man can forgive a woman almost anything but infidelity sinks deep and somehow lingers in their memory forever
Another said: You’re very very very very very right. But my dear, if an adulterous woman is given a chance to defend herself, you’ll realize a greater % of them can be LOGICALLY justified.
It’s interesting to read people’s opinion on this. I know someone, a man, who once told me that if his partner cheats on him, he would really want her to just tell him the truth and fess up. So I asked – how would you then feel if he did cheat on you? And he said – I would want to know so I can understand why she did it. If it’s something I did or said wrong, I can learn from it and we can move on but not till I f*@k some sense into her. That was by far the weirdest reaction I expected from a man to a cheating or cheated spouse.
… More Cheating Spouses: On the Issue of Infidelity
I live in a world all by myself
I love the things I choose to love
And deny the things I shut my eyes to
I am perfect in my imperfect world
Wanting nothing more
Along came a stranger
A familiar stranger
Wanting to know more
And she doesn’t know there’s a secret to my well put together character
For as long as I’m saying nothing
Talk to me for too long
And you begin to see my many flaws
But I want to remain the same way
I want to be the same person you always think I am
The person I am as long as my curtains are not unveiled
So don’t talk to me for too long
My vulnerability is gullible. … More Don’t talk to me for too long
Remember how Jesus Christ got upset? Perhaps, it was recorded only once in the Bible. He visited the Temple on entering into Jerusalem and He saw the people buying and selling (Mark 11:15). He got upset basically because those who are originally of God (the House of Israel) were the ones who turned the House of God into a marketplace. Before then, we read in the book of Matthew how He had guarded the food of the children jealously, not giving it to those whom He hadn’t be sent to (Matt 15:26-27). And here was the people of God disregarding the business of God.
It’s easy to look back on the people from the Bible days and get confident that we would have done things differently. But how are we now different from those people? When we come to church with different intentions, purposes and aims from what the Pentecostal reason for going to church is? Are we now not upsetting Christ again by our attitude in church? See here for 10 wrong reasons I think people go to church.
Redirect your goal. Set it right again and be mindful to do the business of He who sent Christ to give up himself that you might be counted as sons and daughters of God. … More Being mindful of our relationship with God: Buying & Selling in the Temple