#SOTD: If walls could talk

Can you keep a secret?

If walls could talk,

…., they would say I want you more

They would say

Hey, ever felt like this before?

That you’ll always be the one for me

If walls had eyes,

My, eye would see the love inside

They would see me in your arms in ecstasy

And with every move they’d know

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Re-assured by the passion of the season

When one door shuts, another one opens right? Typically another door will open, either a better opportunity or a worse one but we all hope for better opportunities always. No matter the hardship, naturally we believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel. There has to be, otherwise, how do you know you have reached the end of the tunnel? Even Jesus Christ had to suffer before He was exalted.

For Nigeria, we wait, hopeful, believing that we are going through a tough time in readiness for the good times for us and our children. Remember that this season is being celebrated because Jesus Christ died for us? So that we might have a better life? So that we might be free from all limitations? When He died, He did say, ‘It is finished’.

So I choose to be re-assured by the passion of the cause of Jesus Christ’s death. I believe Nigeria will be raise again. I believe God has more and better in store for me far beyond my expectations for myself. I believe the set time has come and all things will be made new again by the power in the resurrection of the Holy Lamb.

This is my assurance and my declaration . . . in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. … More Re-assured by the passion of the season

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Mummy, what do we do in Easter?

Hi People!

So Lent is over and I felicitate and celebrate with my sisters and brothers who were able to partake of this holy experience. So now we look forward to Easter.

My daughter asked me, mummy what do we do in Easter? I wondered why a 4 year old would want to know that, apart from knowing its a time of celebration. Good curiosity though. I guess it shows she’s got a thinking and intelligent mind.

So what do we do in Easter? It’s a time we celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ was accused based on false interpretation of His Words knowingly by those who deliberately wanted Him out of their way. Kings were threatened by Him and the Church was intimidated by Him. So what better way to silence Him than to crucify Him. But He had said that He would destroy the Temple and rebuild it in 3 days but the people didn’t understand Him, as usual. So we celebrate the salvation of our soul on the day Jesus died. His sole purpose was this – to set the captives free and deliver the helpless. When He died, we were made free and the rose on the third day. Death was defeated when Jesus Christ was risen from the grave. He died to take away our sins, our shame and by His death, we are free forever.

So to my daughter, we celebrate at Easter because Jesus Christ died and rose again. We celebrate the death and resurrection. We celebrate the salvation of our souls. We celebrate because we are free. And most importantly, I remember that Jesus Christ first loved me so much that He willingly died so that I might be made whole.

Hallelujah! Amen. … More Mummy, what do we do in Easter?

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Disney’s Dream Big Princess Ad: Thanks Disney

I am excited about everything that has to do with my children. Naturally, I want to see them grow, excel, be the best they can be and explore every means to motivate and encourage them. So when I see on TV, Disney’s Dream Big Princess Ad, I am thrilled. I get goose pumps watching it, seeing the intensity of the excitement and belief in my children’s eyes for what they didn’t even know they could be. Like a politician, an astronaut and an archer. Thanks Disney for this campaign. Thanks for giving the children the opportunity to believe they can be graceful and powerful at the same time.
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Staying relevant in the era of productivity

Forget Nigeria, I guess the world is also merely thriving in these trying times. Just yesterday, I was watching a program on CNN and it was speaking, verbatim, the language of most companies in Nigeria now. Productivity. What is productivity anyway?

“The effectiveness of productive effort (achieving a significant amount or result), especially in industry, as measured in terms of the rate of output per unit of input”.

I suppose this covers everything – every company’s expectation of their employees and everyone’s expectation of themselves basically. So from day one of any venture at all – careful planning, excellent execution and successive consistent delivery of exceptional result is very key. In the words of a professionally accomplished young Ireland woman I know, “put yourself out there. No one will necessary give you the platform to succeed until you take the bulls by the horns and be counted”.

In the usual exercise of a lot of companies, re-org, downsizing, and lay-off, whatever you what to call it, over the last few years, millions of people have found themselves involuntarily out of work—too often through no fault of their own, notwithstanding the conscious effort to deliver and be productive. Unfortunately, this exercise has come to stay. But whether the reason you lost your job has everything to do with your perceived performance, or absolutely nothing, it’s how you respond in the wake of it that will set you apart from others before the next job surfaces. A proactive and positive mindset will differentiate you from the masses, making all the difference in how “lucky” you get in an unlucky economy. It will even determine whether you one day look back on this time with some measure of gratitude for what you gained from it—whether it was the chance to re-evaluate your life, spend extra time with your family, re-strategize on spends and savings, or to simply re-affirm what matters most.
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The Essence of Life: An Extensive Review

Having a conversation with my friends back in the University, I must have been in my third year, the argument ensued about what we thought was the purpose of existence. As Philosophy students, we were taught to always think outside the box, questioning everything. So I thought it would be a good research work to try to summarize in my own understand what I think is The Essence of Life.

The Essence of Life is my second book, written in 2005 and published in 2007 by CSS Bookshops. Because the stress and strain of modern day living leaves many lost in a rat race, The Essence of Life provides salient captions to human existence. It questions and reflects on prominent issues to help us achieve success in every sphere of life. Questions such as:
1.What is life?
2.What is success?
3.What is happiness?
4.What is love?
5.What is the most important thing in life?

In The Essence of Life, I defined life as the ‘characteristic activities of all living things – plants and animals’. Except there is reproduction and metabolism which are the two major categories of all forms of living things, life will not be sustainable. There are a few versions of origin of life and sources of life. There is the replication of molecules from the Darwinian Theory. This is the notion that there are some external sources of energy which powered life on earth. Then we have the Exobiologists who believe that life came to be by evolution and distribution of life forms on earth. My favorite characteristic of the human life which I would like to resonate at this juncture is ‘though the human life as fairytale-like as most of us would wish it, is as real as the cash one can hold in one’s hand’. In our ever evolving world, it is very necessary to engage and inform the growing generation of the reality of this distinctive part of the human life. This on-set realization to life is what I termed the ‘authentic life’. An authentic existence is a life lived in a way one has chosen to live, irrespective of any external influence. This form of existence can begin only when we realize and thoroughly understand what and who we are. Once we have that understanding, our concern from the world that compels us to do things as other people do, will be replaced by our authentic concern to fulfill our real potential in the world. The authentic life is the life in which whatever we do, we are ready to take responsibility for it and stand by our choices. An individual’s choice should be genuinely his. He makes them, knowing full well that he is free yet liable to the consequences of his actions. Our actions can either make or break us. So what is relation between life and success?

The dictionary defines success as ‘something which happens as a consequence’, ‘the achievement of one’s aim or goal’. This in itself does not give the formula for success. Herbert Bayard Swope said, “I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure which is: try to please everybody”. This refers us back to the authentic living. It is only in this that we derive our being, our purpose and are able to work towards an achievement of goal(s). It is of greater importance to create a realistic plan for success if one truly wants to succeed in life. The safest way to do this is by taking successive steps and gradually increasing your chances of reaching your ideal. Taking steps, one at a time and keeping your plan realistic gives you two important benefits – the confidence that comes with the order and precision of having a plan and, having a sound plan has its psychological benefits and your subconscious mind worries less, giving you more energy to concentrate on what is important. Liberating oneself from all these external forces which does not encourage success is to empower oneself. People may offer to help you achieve your goal(s); however, it is only you who have the authority to give yourself into putting your plan(s) into action. Hence, empowerment has become of importance on the road to success. Empowering yourself to know your stance, empowering yourself to be motivated, empowering yourself to take responsibility for your set goals, empowering yourself to succeed – all these are part of self-empowerment which gives the confidence no one will ever be able to take away from you. In The Essence of Life, I stated a few keys to success –
1.Plan
2.Focus
3.Visualize
4.Be open to change and new ideas:

Note, at this point, that the only influence to tolerate at this point of your success is the positive changes – rolling with the times, being savvier in your area of discipline, adopting only the positive in your ideas. A successful person, in the society, becomes a role model. A role model is recipe for a good leader and a good leader leads first, by example.

I’d like to share the video below to inspire and motivate someone today and re-orient our mindset:

Video – Scientific Research that happiness can determine success

However, there has been a common fallacy that a successful man is a happy man. Does success equate to happiness or is it happiness that leads to success? In this part of the world, a layman would respond by saying, ‘when I get successful and I begin to receive the bank alerts, then I will be happy’. But What is Happiness? I defined happiness as ‘a state of joy, pleasure, goodness or satisfaction. The dictionary defines it as ‘the emotion of being happy; joy // good luck, good fortune, prosperity // fortuitous elegance, unstudied grace’. Emotion, luck, fortune, prosperity, elegance, grace, happiness. It is of my opinion that happiness is not a destination. It’s a journey. It’s a conviction of good fortune no matter the condition. Once this conviction is in place, you find that nothing and no one can make you feel less graceful than you are. Nothing and no one can take your conviction of prosperity away. It starts with faith, you own it, you believe it, you speak it and it works for you. It’s not spiritual, it’s not religious. It’s your conviction. Happiness, from the definition given, is a mental state, an emotion, a psyche that transcends beyond your immediate circumstance, it works surpassing your immediate limitation to help you speedily overcome the hurdles and get back on track – the track of your joy/prosperity. Now, prosperity is an all-round bracket encompassing your health, your state of mind, your well-being, your affluence. Success does not translate to good health, success does not translate to well-being, and success does not in all cases translate to money. If money and success has become your yardstick for happiness, then you’ve got it all wrong. You need to begin to re-orient your psyche and settle in a mental state that makes every other thing work for good for you. One of the favorite slogans I’ve heard this year is “joy will take you further’. Further to where you desire to be. It’s not the money, it’s not the success. It’s in your state of mind. Otherwise, each level of success you attain will leave you wanting more and then your life becomes a rat race. Let happiness be your determining factor to your outlook to life.

It is impossible to talk of life and being, success and happiness without making reference to love. There’s no story more satisfying than a love story. All of us have a store of such stories gleaned by tales told to us by grandmothers and mothers, from books, overheard on the road, or experienced firsthand. You can call it first-aid for the soul, for often, it is this that gives us the strength to carry on against all odds, to inject fresh energy, determination and hope into the enterprise of living. After all love, they say, makes the world go round. So what is Love? What does it mean and how does it impart on life as a fulfilled being? Love may have more definitions than any other word and may have more words written about it than any other theme. Love can be said to be everything or nothing. Love is God, a sacrifice, a feeling, a decision, blind manipulation or even patriotism. In Philosophy, altruism is regarded as the devotion to the welfare of others. This, too, is a form of love. The importance of love in this piece of work is to examine the role of relationship, interdependency and trust as a binding force in the human life force for an excellent positive effect. As humans, what keeps us in our interactions is the binding force of morality. Morality can be a body of standards or principles derived from a code of conduct from a particular philosophy, religion, or culture, or it can derive from a standard that a person believes should be universal. Morality may also be specifically synonymous with “goodness” or “rightness.” This keeps us on a pedestal for which we base our interaction with each other. We might agree that the world needs more love and trust because we rationalize that our problems stem from others, not ourselves, and that they are the ones who make life so difficult for us. When in fact, if we look closely, we will realize and appreciate the importance of people to our sane existence.

Now, how do we categorize what’s important in life and what isn’t? This anticipation brings us to the final chapter of this book which I titled ‘The most important thing in life’. While success may be paramount for most people and happiness for the selective few, or perhaps love means everything for others, it all boils down to what we are able to use this potential to achieve in our lifetime. Life, in itself, is a space a time. It has a beginning and an ending, if you want to examine it in itself span. The Creator has purposed something(s) for each life form and the onus to fulfill these obligations is what I termed The Essence of Life. To me, as stated in this piece of research work, The Essence of Life is my service to humanity in a way that leaves positive impacts even to generations to come.

This book has been set as a template for the reforming of your mind to realize and achieve the essence of your life.
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Catching up!

So my dad invited me as a forum to celebrate my second book, The Essence of Life, to a Book Festival at his educational schools. I had wanted to share the experience since the 3rd of March but hey, see my challenges in the paragraphs above :p

I was honored and humbled when two secondary school students reviewed and appraised my book, picking clearly from the session how they too inspire to do something so praiseworthy at a tender age. A few credible book lovers and educationists also graced the occasion, stressing the need to awaken the love and awareness for reading, especially from hard copy and not on e-copy all the time. … More Catching up!

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